Anyone else regret your choice of bridesmaids??!!

I know that sounds awfull but i dont mean it horribly!!

Its just that i really do wished i have picked differently- You see i have 3 bridesmaids that i just knew would be my bridesmaids, there sort of was no choice about it i guess. 2 are my younger cousins, so both 15/16 and one os a good friends of mines daughter whos 10. Now i knew I didnt want more than 3 bridemaids so that was that really. It meant I had no maid of honour as i had no adult bridesmaids

Well a year ago when i started planning i didnt really think much about it but its really upseting me that i have no friends t get ready with on the morning of the wedding, just my kid cousins, no MOH to plan my hen party, so i am considering not bothering having one and to top it off, one of my bridesmaids is being a mega brat as well about everything!!

Now i know its too late to do anything now as wedding in less than 4 months but i suppose i just needed a rant and to see if anyone else is in a simlar position!!

thanks for reading and im honestly not being mean, just stressing i guess!!

xxx

If you want a friend with you on the morning of the wedding, ask a friend to come round.
If you want a hen do, organise one yourself or ask a friend to help, explain you have no adult bridesmaids but would love the help if they can spare the time.
Kids/teenagers are bratty at times. Don't hold it against them.

hi stephie,

I have 4 adult bridesmaids,and 2 flowergirls and they are so stressful, the adult bidesmaids are being way more bratty than the kids, they dont like the dresses and have to have an opinion on everything so im really thinking i made the wrong choices but have to grin and bare it as its only 3 months to the day.
you could still ask someone to be your moh there is still time just get a dress from debenhams or something, u really should have someone there to fuss over you on the day. xx

Aw hun I really feel for you. Your friends could still get ready with you even though they aren't official bms? I was a witness for my friend but was much more a bm on the day than her actual bm was! I helped her in the morning and throughout the day with everything and she was so grateful. Actually it's very similar to you as she just had a 14 year old cousin as her bm and I think she realised later that she would have liked a friend too. Who are your witnesses? Def surround yourself with your friends, I'm sure they won't be offended that they aren't official bms and will be happy to help, just explain to them that you didn't want too many but had to have the 3 you've got.
xx

Thanks ladies, i know i must sound like im being a proper moaner but i am just starting to think about and getting a bit down. Yes i could ask a friend to be a witness i guess, but we are having a very traditional church wedding so asumed it was the parants that are witnesses??

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My sister had a traditional church wedding and I was her witness... I don't think I've ever known parents to be witnesses at a wedding so I'd double check that first!

Most of the weddings I have been to parents have been witnesses, think whose signature you want on your wedding certificate for the rest of your life. At the time of our wedding we just had my Dad and Husbands mum still living so had them. My Dad has since died so I love that it is his writing on the wedding certificate.

In regards to bridesmaids etc one of my friends had none so I organised her hen do and another friend helped her get ready on the morning of the wedding and did a reading.

I had one adult bridesmaid, she helped the friend above organise a mini hen do at home while the other one was back from Canada but the main hen do which was a gorgeous spa day I organised myself. Felt bad getting people to send money to someone they didn't know.

I'd ask your closest friend to come round and get ready with you on the morning, I'm sure they'd be happy to do it.

You could ask the same friend to organise (or help you to organise) a hen do.

You could consider adding a MOH still, as they wouldn't even need to wear exactly the same dress (sometime MOH wears a different dress to rest of bridesmaids to stand out) but depends on finances etc and how you think it would fit in to everything.

Don't worry about the bridesmaids being bratty.. teenagers often are. Just treat is as all they have to do is wear a dress and walk down the aisle on the day, leave the emotional support and hen do stuff to your friends instead.

With regard to witnesses, we had a traditional church wedding and our witnesses were my auntie and hubby's grandad. You can have whoever you want (though make it someone important to you, their names will be on your wedding certificate forever). A lot of people choose the two mums, or the best man and maid of honour - we decided that these people already had wedding party roles and wanted to involve as many of our loved ones as possible, which is why we asked auntie/grandad to be our witnesses.

I have never heard of parents being witnesses, I though it was usually the best man and chief bridesmaid? If you have a really close friend I think being asked to be a witness is such an honour. As for the hen do, my friends was organised by a friend who volunteerd to do it (so not a bm), and I'm doing most of mine since my chief bm (my sister) doesn't know any of my friends, lives 500 miles away and doesn't know London at all which is where my hen will be based! You can def get round this problem, get your friends involved, I bet they'll be chuffed to be asked to help out. Get talking about your hen do next time you meet up with them, I bet they'll have loads of ideas and get really excited about helping out!
Hope you're feeling better about everything soon!
xx

Well I have been to 8 weddings in the last 3 years and only one the parents weren't witnesses.
Do choose who you want though