How young is a young bride?

Hi

I'll be 23 when i get married and will also be the 1st of my group of friends to do so (making me feel younger i suppose). I got engaged not long after i turned 21 and have been with my H2B since i was 18.

Even though we've been together nearly 5 years i still get annoyed when people say "oh but you're soo young to get married!" or the comments about getting engaged quite young. It annoys me because those same people say nothing when a 30 something gets engaged/married when they've been with their partner a significantly shorter length of time.

This has turned into a bit of a rant (sorry) and i'm sure many of you are younger than me so that got me thinking - how young is a younger bride?

(another "young" annoyance - i feel my caterer gives me no respect due to my age - grr!)

i was 20 the first time, met at 16 engaged at 18 and married at 20 ..at the time everyone said your too young i didnt feel it .. looking back yes i think i was slighty too young ....
23 isnt too young i dont think

I got engaged just after I turned 21. When I marry I will be 24 (just). I'm similar to you. I am the first to get married out of the friends I went to school with. When we first got engaged, some family commented that they hoped we would have a longer engagement. It will have been nearly 3 years! So I think that is long enough.

So far I have been lucky in that I haven't been treated differently for my age whilst planning the wedding, even though I can easily be mistaken for being 16/17!

I feel for you! I've known my H2B since we were 13, together since 16, engaged since 21 and will be married at 23! I'm the 3rd of my group of friends (bizarre) and 2nd of my school friends to be getting married. It's not too young at all, you've been together for ages! Don't worry about the comments, remember it's water off a duck's back! There are ladies on here engaged at 18 so we arnt young at all (I'm 22)! I'm told I look 16 / 17 too. Just think you'll be looking young through your life and married to your love for a long time!
Assert yourself, opinion is opinion! People will judge, that's nature but trust in your relationship. That's what counts!

All the best for your planning! PS When's the big day?

Im 24 and will be getting married a couple of months before my 25th birthday, my partner will be 28. Quite a few ppl i went to school with have already got married, about 5 i spose, and a few from a neighbouring school.
I dont think it comes to age, i think its down to maturity and genuin love and happiness.
I would of been with my partner nearly 6 and a half years by the time we say our vows and already have a 2 year old together to getting married seemed to be the next step in our relationship. I love him and he loves me so thats all that matters! Ignore other peoples judgment! its your day not theres! xx

I'm 21, and we are planning to marry December next year (2012) when I'll be 22!!

We've mostly had positive comments, and while my mum is really happy for us, I think she wants us to have a long engagement and get married in 2014. My h2b and I are moving out in the first few months into our own home with a mortgage, but I think she's going to kick up a bit of a fuss when we tell her inn the new year our plan.

But we'll have been engaged for a year and a half, and as long as we can afford everything without debt, and are totally ready for it, it it shouldn't be an issue should it?

My big day is the 25th February 2012! not long now!

Thanks for the responses ladies - i know everyone is different and its how you feel about the relationship that counts.

ps. i get constantly ID'd - even for buying non-alcoholic beer!

I've been with my h2b since l was 17, engaged since 19 and fnially getting married at 23 (in just under 4 weeks) and l get "aww you don't look old enough" when l went wedding dress shopping the assistant took one look at me and got out prom dresses, lol.
I'm the first one to get married in my generation of family, but l've had mainly positive back from my family. I think of myself as lucky, not many women met mr right when they are young

yup, i get the 'too young' thing all the time, even though im 21 in november. i'll be 23 when we get married, but later in the year, 24!

I'm also the first one out of my group of friends and old school friends to be engaged and be getting married, and when people haven't seen you for a long time they expect you to still be 17 years old and exacly how you were at school!

i sometimes feel 'too young' but it's only because i've never done anything like this before! i'm loving it though

I'll be 27, nearly 28, yet feel young. I'd never imagined I'd get married in my 20's, I always thought I'd be at least 30, and it looks like I'll be the first of my friends to marry (unless they have a shot gun wedding lol as none of them have long-term partners).

That said, I've been with my OH nearly 6 years now (I'm nearly 25, he's 25) and would marry him tomorrow if we could afford it.

I don't think it's so much age as where you are in life; I think life experience is important, and I also think it's good to be settled, not just with your partner, but in life in general. I've seen couples who were close at university move apart because they've realised once they started working that they want very different things in life and have different ambitions, which have caused tensions. I would also say that I have changed A LOT as a person since I was 18, or even 20/21, and I think this is quite common. I also think it's a seriously bad idea to marry someone until you're WELL past the honeymoon period; I'd say getting engaged before 2.5 years together is premature, as things do change.