Are you having a wedding gift list for your second wedding?

Hello, I wondered what other second time couples are doing regarding a gift list. Is it a cheek to have a list and seem like you are expecting gifts the second time around? Or do guests expect a list? Not sure what the right thing is! I know some of our friends will buy us something little, but relatives who attended our first weddings may not wish to. What do you do without upsetting or offending anyone or causing inconvenience! Honestly, second weddings are a minefield, aren't they?!!

It's my fiance's second marriage (he's a widower) and we're having a gift list - after all, it's the first time for me. I haven't heard any grumblings ahout him getting a second present.

Thanks for your reply.

It is a second for both of us and maybe that makes a difference I am not sure. I agree you shouldn't miss out. I will ask a few people what they think.

thanks again

My first time and my h2b's second time and he doesn't want us to have a gift list. If people want to give us a gift that's fine. If not, that's fine too. All I'm bothered about is marrying my man (Oh and going to Mexico!!!)

We are having a list but dont expect people to get us a present.

Just because its the second time doesnt mean it should be any different to a first!

It was second time around for bot of us (widower and divorcee) and we didn't have a list as we have lived together for 16 years. If pushed we told people they could get us a voucher if they really wanted and we ended up with loads of vouchers and cash and euro's as only one couple didn't get us anything- so I guess that proves the majority will want to get you something

It's second time round for me and first time round for my fiancé, we have everything we could possibly want and therefore are not having a gift list or asking for money (could never bring myself to either!) we get what we get. xx

Hi girls we hv told guests to donate what they want or nothing(up to them) to our wedding charities, divide between mcmillian nurses and homeless animals xx we hv everything we need at our age, so better to help someone else instead xx

forgot to say andrew chose the nurses as they helped his mother who died of breast cancer and i had a tumour when i was 24, as for the animals i watched a programme with Peter Andre at the Happy Endings sanctuary in Hailsham so they are having my half. xxx

Stan 1963 I totally agree I have made a charity page where our guests leave us a message for our wedding day and then donate to cancer research and we told people on my invites were happy to have them there to share our day and we have everything we need and not short financially so put it to good cause and help those needing help. My sister and 2 young nieces have in the past yr suffered badly at the hands of the big C and the staff at the hospitals are nothing short of a MIRACLE. We have done our bit too and instead of having favors we have little cards explaining that we have donated on there behalf to our other 2 most important charitys. 1 is help the heroes because my son is in the army and giving me away on my big day so it means the world to him(he will be wearing proudly full millitary uniform) and the other is a police charity for those injured in the line of duty(my h2b is a police sgt)and wearing full tunic uniform on the day and is honoured that our wedding is giving help to them and I feel so proud of them both. Im not saying that other brides to be should do the same im merely commenting and do understand some people actually need house hold items as gifts and thats fine too as long as your happy do what makes you happier ps stan1963 I also was very moved with the peter andre animal shelter appeal and money to a fab cause there

I am putting a little poem in the invites saying we don't want presents as we have all we need, the main thing is that they join us in the celebrations, but if they insist on giving us something then money would be best to help us with a honeymoon xxx