'Young' Brides... Where are you all?

I was just wondering where all the young Brides are?!

How were your families when you told them you were getting married?? We're they supportive?

My mum was really supportive when we got engaged, but when we started looking at venues and suggested a date to her, she changed tact and her attitude towards our big day flipped 360 degrees! My h2b and I are now planning our wedding on the quiet and plan to spill the beans on our plans in the next few weeks!

Lauren xx

My mum isn't very supportive.

When I told her we were engaged she congratulated us, but was relieved that the big thing I had to tell her wasn't that I was pregnant! A family friend just had a baby just as she turned 21 (I'm recently 23), so that idea was in her mind.

Now the same friend is engaged, and my mum has told me about her plans, and how excited she is about it, and how great it will be for them to be a little family.

At the same time she's made it clear that she thinks I'm too young/immature and not ready for marriage, and that the relationship is too "fast". I'm not sure why. Yes, I don't have a baby, but it's not like she wanted me to! It really disappoints me. I think partly she wants to be more involved that she is, and because we don't live in the same city, can't be, so she resents the fact that we're able to make decisions without her. She has made me change several things to suit her/her ideas of what other people want. I don't really feel like the day is mine, and she doesn't feel like it's hers.

Ahh that's rubbish!

Sometimes you just cant win with parents - particularly mothers!

My mum refuses to talk weddings at all with me, and as soon as I mention the W word (even if totally unrelated to me), she becomes really short and snappy about things and the conversation is over in 10 seconds flat!

It's so awkward as this is the time you are supposed to enjoy planning with your family, and mine doesnt even want to talk about it!!

what is a young bride? I've just gone 21 and will be 22 when i get wed......am i a young un? I was 19 when i got engaged, one of my friends was the only person who gave me abit of stick for being so young but now were getting closer to the big day, shes more excited than me

You're the same age as me, and will be the same age as me when I get married - so yeah, I'd say you were a young'un!

Were your parents supportive?

I'm young! Though I feel old, turning 22 next week

We got engaged when we were 19 and although I'm *certain* everybody knew it was going to happen as we talked about it all the time, Mum maintains that it came as a shock to her! We were then going to just go with the Uni-flow, graduate, work then save up for something in our own time, probably making it around 2015 by the time we got married, by which time we would have been engaged for 6 years!

It was her idea to bring it forward to immediately after we graduate, which I think is a fab idea! She is contributing, though only as much as she did to get the family out to Cyprus for my sister's wedding so we decided we'd do it with that being the entire budget (ie. £3k with donation from in laws too)!

She's generally very supportive, we had a dodgy moment over summer when I decided I wanted a new dress as I didn't like my first one but she got over it

I'm sorry to hear your mum's are being meanies - probably just jealous

Very supportive they've never said it's too quick or we should wait etc etc. All sets of parents are really excited (H2B parents divorced with new partners) and can't wait for the wedding. I've never even thought of what i'd do if they weren't so supportive. Sorry your mom won't talk to you about weddings, hmmm i'd be so sad if mine wouldn't. . *big hugs* . But i would probably pester my mom until she would, she's a big softie

Not talking aboutit at all is awful. Mine's not that interested, but she's not obstructing it. It just feels like she's trying to put a good face on it!

H2B's parents, however, think we're being really slow, and expected us to get engaged fast after we were very excited moving in together! Then again, he's 18 months older than me, and his parents met and got engaged 3 weeks later, over Christmas and New Year!

I feel way older than my age too! But i've always been more mature than most people of the same age!

We first thought we'd wait till 2014, but my h2b has recently had a pay rise, and because I've already got money saved up to pay for the wedding and also because we've been a bit more realistic about how much we want to spend on buying a house,, we've been able to bring it forward to December 2012.

My h2b and I both felt we'd be bowing to someone else's demands if we stuck to 2014 like my mum wants, which is not right when it is our day! Still super hard though!

My h2b's mum is insanely excited, but I feel bad talking to her about things when we're not talking to my mum about things (this would annoy her more if she knew someone else knew more about the wedding than she did - IMPOSSIBLE to win!)!