Help needed from stressed out brides!

Hey there, not sure if this is the correct place to post this, but I am looking to chat with brides who are feeling really stressed. I am researching stress management techniques for brides and really wanted to hear your stories. The thing I am really interested in is what part or aspect of wedding planning makes you feel the most stressed? I know you are all probably super busy but I would so appreciate a quick message if you have the time! Good luck to everyonr and I am positive you will all have the most amazing wedding day!

The guest list is stressing me out the most! I only want a small, intimate wedding, but it seems every person we ever met automatically assumes they'll be there! Also, some people on our list who I'd rather weren't but h2b can't do without them he says.
As for stress management though, I have no idea, sorry!!

Judging from the last couple of years on here, the most stressful things for most brides are:

1. Guest List worries. And managing table plans diplomatically.
2. Pushy family trying to get you do to what they want or trying to take control of the planning. Especially if they are paying for any or all of the wedding.
3. Indifferent or unhelpful bridesmaids.
4. Finance.
5. Pregnancy (own, or bridesmaids, MOH or close family).
6. Competition from other brides- eg H2B's sisters planning weddings just before yours and 'stealing ideas'.
7. Feuding family members- people saying they won't come, or bride's family not getting on with groom's family.
8. Pressure to invite kids.
9. People forcing their kids on you whether you like it or not (eg buying flower girl dress when kid hasn't been invited to be flower girl).

For most of the above, the coping technique will vary according to the specifics of the problem, as will any 'stress management technique'. Some people will grab the bull by the horn and wade in to sort out the problem. Some will retreat and put the problem off. Some will give in and just fume or stress about it before the wedding. Mostly we try to give advice on here but I'm not sure about any stress management techniques other than 'take a deep breath'.

Hope this helps

hi there new to this but just had to find a wedding chat room to let of steam and just to see if anyone else is getting as stressed as i am! im not having any of the stresses you have listed above its my venu are really mucking us about and what has made it more difficult is the fact we are actually dealing with the bosses so we are worried if we speak up they will not make our day special for us but the list is endless what they have done and what really annoys me is that when we 1st booked it they couldnt do enough for us now they have our deposi they have mucked us about endlessly to the point im not looking forward to the wedding and ive done nothing but cry and have upset bellie and even rowed with my husband to be its a nightmare and i get married in 2weeks on valentines day

Mandy what have they done to muck you about? Do you have a list of problems that people can maybe give you advice about?

I'm managing to avoid most stress with a some que sera sera attitude, but my god the GUEST LIST!!! Horrible!!

Definatly family cauing the most wedding based stresses atm!

Family are the most stressful thing to be honest

Putting in there 2 cents in when it's not asked for
And the newest thing is 'reminding us' to invite people from h2b family that I've only ever met once in 3 years!

Hi flossycat well when we found a venue the lady i spoke to on the phone was so nice it was oh yes we can do that for you and this for you etc...so we went to meet her she showed us around and told us what we can do to the place and she bent over backwards (which i would do if somone was paying me a few grand) then we layed down our deposit and it just went down hill she started to tell us she didnt say it was £22 a head and uped it to £25 a head which i did speak up and say i wasnt happy her going back on her word but had to stick at it then we arranged to sort out our menus and made an oppointment to meet her so my boyfriend took time out of work (which he cant really afford to do as hes self employed)and we waited there for 20mins and she didnt show so i rang her and she reckons she didnt say that day as she had an important meeting up london again i spoke up and said she did ive got it written down but all the time i just have to keep biting my tounge to what i really want to say as they had our deposit and just to let you no we didnt book this venue a year in advance as my boyfriend only asked me to marry him in september and we really wanted it on valentines day as thats when we met 8yrs ago so its all been a bit of a rush so i was scared to pull out and find somwhere else incase we couldnt find anywhere,then she said if i wanted to ring her next week to sort out the menus i can its fine so i did and she was in spain her husband answered her phone and was quite rude and said ring next week we are in spain on holiday and i recognised his voice as the man she told us wasnt her husband and was her boss at the venue she led us to beleave up until then she was just the manager and not the owners wife!!anyway i rang her when she got back and we met up and sorted menus out but the whole time shes talking down to us as if they are doing us a favour not that we are paying then quite a bit of money and every idea i come up with she poo hoos it and be littles me as if her ideas are so much better! i wouldnt mind im so much older than her and it is my second marrige aswell anyway since last week ever time ive rang her to ask her somthing which to me is important as we only had 3weeks left she hasnt answered her phone si i hid my number on my mobile and she answered it straight away!!what a ..... anyway we finaly met and payed the final amount and (it gets worse) she rang us the next day and said she forgot to charge us for service charge!!!! what the hell we thought this would have been included in the price per head but she said oh no of course not how cheep do you want this!so 10% on a few grand work it out! quite a bit of extra money to find and she wants it this week ive been in tears and i said to my boyfriend when this is all over im going to write to my local paper and let it rip! oh theres more her husband answered her phone once before i hid my number so they knew it was me andhe said she wasnt there and i said she told me to ring her this time today and he actually said to me we do have other people to deal with you no apart from you that are actually paying more money than you.Ive been in tears a lot over these horrible people and i will get my own back.I just hope it all gos well on the day and she dont ruin it in some way.Sorry if ive gone on a bit but wanted you to get the whole picture and it has really helped me writting this down.Thanks

Hi. My stresses are the guest list- people assuming they are invited because they knew one of us many years ago but haven't kept in touch, other guests saying who they think should be invited to our wedding,my mum refusing to come to my wedding and constantly telling me how much she doesn't care about it, my dad and H2B close aunty both booking their weddings for 4 weeks before and after ours (even though it is both their 2nd marriages!) and making alot of the stuff myself. I let some stuff go but most stuff will stress me out to the point where I just can't stop crying! No-one really talks about the stress of wedding planning only the fun parts!