Discrimination from venues?

Im not sure I'd as far as to really call it discrimination, but couldnt think of a better word...

Have any of you ever been put off by a venues reaction when you inform them it is a militaru wedding? When I was younger, I always dreamed of the venue I would have my reception in, a lovely seafront hotel right next to our church, so obviously when it came time to start planning, went to see it. As soon as they found out I was marrying into the forces, she basically said and I quote '' well I dont want any drunken squadies running around ''

As it happens, we are inviting very few MIlitary people, infact only 2 families, both of which are families, with children. However, I was so peeved with her reaction, I have now gone elsewhere for the reception venue. Have any of you had any bad experiences when it comes to venues assuming that because you are military, all your guests are drunken idiots?

Quite the opposite actually... Everyone has been so accommodating! I'd send a strongly worded email as to why you have chosen to take your business elsewhere. I can't bear people who stereotype!!!! X

Luckily, we didn't receive negative reactions from any of the venues we looked at. We explained our situation from the outset and each venue we went to were more than helpful. In my opinion, I wouldn't hand over my hard earned cash to someone who had treated me that way, but then I do have a tendency to stubbornly cut off my nose to spit my face. Like Raspberry_Jam said, I would complain x

Looking at it from the other side, I live very close to barracks, and our local towns actively market they don't allow Squadies in the clubs and bars. I guess it's just that when they do all go out together it's a lot of young, strong (often single) men who are used to fighting with each other. I can understand why they are banned from clubs to stop fights, but I know this would be totally different for a wedding, and you are hiring a venue out, so if they want your business they should be doing everything they can to try and get it, not saying rude remarks! I would have gone to another venue too, I'm sure you have done the right thing!

Fighting each other?

what was it you said about stereotyping! lol

To be fair, she didn't say she didn't want your business; she expressed a concern which is completely just. She doesn't know the individuals, she doesn't know how many "squaddies", officers or whatever at the wedding, and, speaking as someone whose H2B is from a military family, yes, they can be like that sometimes, so it was perfectly reasonable of her to express concern. You should have put her right rather than getting the wind up and coming on a forum to b!tch about discrimination. If she'd told you she didn't want your wedding there THAT would be a very different matter!

If you don't have your dream venue I'm afraid it is because you're cutting off your nose to spite your face. I've had a lot of suppliers be a lot ruder and more upfront with me than that! Sorry to be harsh, but HONESTLY!

To Be fair, she kinda did, or atleast dictated who I could invite, and when Im paying a comapny thousands of pounds to host a function wedding or otherwise, I dont expect to be told who I can or cant invite. Ive worked in the hospitality industry for 10+ years, in that time, catered for, served at and hosted numerous functions. I would never dream of telling someone I didnt approve of their guestlist! As a venue, you take into consideration things like damages, or atleast make it clear that the people your contract is with will be liable for any that occur.
I hate that people genralise so much when it comes to ''squaddies'' is it not just as common for any large group of men to get a bit loud and leery after a few drinks!