Mother in law

Hi I'm new to all this and was wondering if anyone could help

We are getting married June this year, I need some information regarding the general etiquette of the cars I thought the cars to the church were for bridesmaids mother of the bride and bride & father then from the church to the reception venue bride & groom and bridesmaids???

I have 2 cars and seven bridesmaids ( a lot of sisters) so my mum will travel to the church with them but a friend has offered to take my parents to the reception venue as their wont be enough room in the cars, this is all fine and straight forward my problem being my mother in law is insisting she should be in a bridal car!!! The groom is making his own way to church with best man so are we obliged to supply her with a bridal car as she is kicking up a real fuss HELP!!!!!

hi, no not at all, the first car is ment to be for you and who ever is giving you away and the 2nd or even 3rd is for the bridesmaids like you said. there seems to be a big thing with mother in laws to be playing up, mine included, but thats a another story
im breaking the rules, ( much to the in laws horror ) im saving on money as it only a 10 minute drive from my house to the wedding then another 5 mins to the reception, im having my brother in laws vw camper van that his just done up beautifully.
it will have all the ribbons and flowers on the roof itll look the part.
my mother in law is going nuts about it as its not the done thing, its all about the show to her, she wants me to have a vintage rolls Royce! that'll be over £500 for two and that would be a good deal.
its so hard to put your foot down with out causing trouble. the only compromise i can think of would be to say, ask her for the money for an extra car? my other half tends not to say much and thinks im over reacting so i hope your fiance is more understanding and may be he'll have a word??
sorry for going on a bit. hope your day goes well xx

as far as i know the traditional thing is for the bridesmaid and the bride and father to arrive in cars the rest have to make their own way there!?

tell her she can have a car aslong as she pays for it otherwise she can get herself there

mils are an annoyance!

blondie751 totally understand what you mean about fiance not saying much and it doesnt help that I seem to be the one that is constantly having to voice our opinions, even though it is his mother!!!

She is sleeping over at the reception the evening before so will have her own car available anyway that is the annoying thing about it, and she has questioned if my mother will be in a car and if so then she best be in a car!! i've told her in the most polite way possible that she will not be in a car and needs to arrange her own transport... I dont know what all the fuss is about I though a wedding was supposed to be about the bride & groom not the MIL making a grand entrance!!!! x

agree with the above, seem to have nightmare MIL on this forum, glad mine lives in N Ireland but i imgine she will pipe up at some point hehe.

id tell her she can arrange her own transport. tell her you are sticking with tradition (perhaps it is only the bride and enterage who traditionally have the cars because it is the brides father who has paid for it all)

im just having taxis for all of the bridal party (both sides) as its a half hour drive each way so itl be expensive and im not fused, no ones going to see me arrive anyway and i dont care what car i come in, id sit in the back of my dads 10 year old mondeo if he'd let someone else drive it

just ot to find someone who will bring the mutts....

do what you want and put your foot down on what you dont want, and im afraid i do mean you put your foot down because i dont think men even stand up to their mothers, iv never met one who did hehe