Anyone else getting really annoyed at people not coming to wedding?

I'm feeling really cross today after another rejection from family members who should really make the effort to be at our wedding, and I'm just wondering if anyone else feels like this too? Or if I'm just being silly and taking it too personally!!

Firstly, a close friend is coming to my hen do but not to the wedding, which I think is strange. Secondly, my aunt and uncle are not making the effort to be there. I just think it's sad that after my grandparents died last year, no one seems to be making any effort to stay in touch

And I'm annoyed because we were so short on space that there were friends that I could have invited but didn't because I thought family should come first!

Anyway ... rant over. But I would like to know how other people feel about this issue!

People can be funny, inconsiderate and downright rude. How long before you get married? If I were you, I'd 'bump' some friends and give them an invite if you're still in a position to do so.

I think if someone can't be bothered or doesn't want to celebrate your marriage with you, then you should find people who ARE pleased and DO want to come, and invite them. Surround yourself with happiness on the day and stuff the others

I'm of the opinion that you can't tell someone they 'should' make the effort to attend a wedding.

Yes, it would be nice if your family did come, but it's not always possible. That doesn't necessarily mean your family are being selfish - there could be a reason why they are not attending but they are choosing not to share it with you. And ask yourself do you really want someone to attend out of duty? Wouldn't you rather every guest is there because they want to be?

Look at it positively, those people you desperately wanted to invite but lacked space for can be with you now to share your special day.

What was really upsetting was people who were invited all day (2 cousins) did not turn up on the day when they have accepted and not bothered to let you know and you are left to pay for their meals.

Evening Reception - It was a lovely sunny day when my daughter married.
a number of work colleagues and their partners were invited from her and my son in laws work place, they did not bother to turn up therefore a lot of food went to waste.

they either forgot or decided to had a B B Q at home

I feel your frustrations! What I can't grasp is when guests take so long to decide to rsvp particularly when it's a rejection. I've had to chase many guests and I've had some guests rejecting at the last minute now I'm having to bump the evening guests but it looks obvious now that they were 'B listers' as the day invites I got professionally made only have a few days left on them in terms of RSVP date! Just wish people, particularly those who can't attend for whatever reason, show abit more respect and let me know sooner!!

So they have declined, invite someone else.
If they'd wanted to be there they would be there, you will have enough to think about without worrying about people who have declined your invitation.
Invite someone who you would actually like to be there rather than who you feel you should invite.

This is the thing about weddings!
People don't ever really see then as important as obviously the bride does!
My fav auntie who I have been extremely close 2 txt me last week 2 say she wouldn't b making the wedding as she goes 2 Blackpool every year on my date with her family!
I know this is over me having a silly fall out with her daughter (my cousin) after I removed her from my Facebook page over her posting sectarian comments on old firm days!
My other cousin her other daughter has said she will b missing Blackpool 2 attend the wedding as she would never miss it!
Originally I was a bit hurt at my aunt , but the more I thought about it I was like, yeessss! Now I can invite more of the girls from work all day! xxxx

2 of the people on our all day list have been uncontactable since we gave them their invite 2 months ago, we've tried to contact them (as the RSVP date has passed) but no response, so what to do?

RSVP'ing will never be as important to anyone as much as it is to the bride, some people just don't think it matters quite as much as it does.

Ive already started using my reserves friends, they all know why, and none of them feel hurt, getting a wedding invite should be a honor, its a special day and people should understand that, and if they dont....well they're the ones missing out aren't they!!

xx

this is why i'm getting my invites out in plenty of time so when family members we dont really want there decide its not really for them either we can invite some more of the people we do want

invite some friends and be glad you can now have people who are actually a part of your life come

i'm afraid im a bit of the opinion if they cant be bothered to stay in touch why would i invite them anyway but it didnt work like that and ive been told iv i invite some uncles i need to invite them all and hope they just wont come

*shrug* just me then who isn't bothered if people aren't coming?

I agree not replying to RSVPs is annoying and saying they're coming and not showing in the day is hideously rude!!

But.... if people don't want to come I honestly couldn't care less, I wanted to get married just the two of us but groomzilla wouldn't have it