Had a meltdown moment!

Just had my first meltdown! 2 months to go until wedding and I feel like I'm a pressure cooker about to explode, trying to please people is in my nature but i'm finding it all too much at the moment! Have just started a stressful job and not normally tearful but just broke down in front of my fiancé!
Anyway, the current situation is that my mum got her outfit many months ago, it's a teal / green colour and she had a hat made to match and used the spare beads from the dress to put on her hat to co-ordinate. So she spent a lot of time pulling it all together. The wedding colour scheme is blue but she fell in love with the teal dress when she tried it on. I wanted her to feel comfortable so I was more than happy for her to wear this colour. Today though my MIL2B bought her outfit which is blue and complements well with the bridesmaids. My mum has  panicked as she will be the only one in the bridal party not in the 'colour scheme' and she doesnt think her dress 'goes'. I have tried to reassure her that her dress suits her but she is really worried and the outfit has cost a fortune with the bespoke hat etc so it can't be changed. Spoke to my MIL2B about my mums worry but there's nothing that can be done. Both have many pressures in their lives, both nan's are very ill. My mum also has many health concerns and suffers with depression. I really want to help sort things out and want my mum to be happy but there's nothing I feel i can do. Hate to say it but Ive had enough of wedding planning and want it over with! I can't wait to marry my fiancé and fly off on honeymoon!

Don't see why it matters about them being in the colour scheme. It is about you two getting married not what shade of blue she is wearing - she is your mum and is part of the bridal party no matter what.

Can you get her a wrist corsage or a buttonhole to tie in?

Thanks I agree, I don't mind what they wear so long as they are comfortable. They are both going to have matching corsages. It's hard because they keep coming to me to get constant reassurance and no matter what I say it doesn't work. They are both offloading onto me and I feel stuck in the middle. It's the last thing I need at the moment. We are going to get the Dads measured for their suits today and I just know my MIL2B won't stop going on about it! Grrrr I thought wedding planning was supposed to be fun! All the stress at the mo has made my skin break out, you could play join the dots on my face at the moment! not a great look! X

My mum is adamant she shouldn't wear the same colour as the bridesmaids or anything that will clash so I'm having the opposite problem every time we go shopping. I really couldn't care less what colour she wears in relation to the bridesmaids as I'd rather she found something she looked and felt amazing in! If your mums anything lke mine though she won't be listening though!

Are you getting involved in the dads outfits? I'm just leaving them to it. My dads going to wear his kilt and h2b's dad will wear a suit. That's as much as I know. Although saying that my dad broke his shoulder yesterday so he'll now be in an immobiliser sling for the wedding! No idea how he'll get his kilt jacket on now! Parents are def sent to try us!

I read that the mothers arent meant to wear the colour scheme, so neither of ours will be wearing the colour. I think Teal is lovely and I agree that if matching is important to her a corsage will work wonderfully.

As for your feeling stressed. I advise...go have a day alone. Maybe go swimming. Something relaxing yet keeping you occupied x

tell her it means she will stand out as mother of the bride, surely the third most important person in the wedding party so why would she want to look like everyone else

Ahh thanks for your support! Just been out with the dads and MIL2B. It wasn't too bad when she understood that my mum isn't well at the moment. I suggested they talk to each other though about it as there's nothing I can offer.

Jefnur- I went with my fiancé a few months ago to help pick out the suit and cravat etc. He chose the style suit he wanted and I matched the bridesmaid blue with the blue cravat. Went today with Dad to help him as he has never worn a suit in his life! Haha! He brushes up well tho!

Carrierufus- a day to myself sounds like bliss! Got a few days off soon so think swimming etc would go down a treat!

Nats 2013- good idea about her standing out. Although knowing my mum she probably wouldn't like that either and wants to blend! Ever feel like you can't win! Haha xx

Her outfit sounds lovely and I've never known anyone other than the bridesmaids/ushers & grooms ties or whatever to fit in with a colour scheme, she'll look brilliant in her outfit and shouldn't even think about not wearing it