All happening so quickly...

I am having a moment (another one...) where whilst I have been waiting for a proposal for years (it will be 9 in a couple of days time!) that everything is happening so quickly and I keep seeing pictures of other peoples wedding plans that arent til like 2013 or whatever and they have so much time to plan everything and get exactly what they dreamed of...
We decided to put the date around 6 and a bit months after we got engaged (got engaged in November) which made me really excited but now I think that there are a lot of things I dont think I will get to do because of the time frame.

I know I'm being silly...but things like my dress - my mum was coming over for 2 days from Ireland to help find it and as it was less than 6 months to go it felt like there was loads of pressure so ended up getting one that looked ok on rather than the vintage dream dress I was looking for.

Had my hair trial the other day and the lady was great - but she is a vintage hairdresser and now I dont know whether the hair and the dress will go or just look stupid...

On top of this I keep seeing gorgeous art deco dresses / weddings and mine is going to be the biggest mish mash of styles and ideas ever...it doesn't really have a theme or colour scheme....

Just feeling very stressed and overwhelmed as I know I am really happy for it all to be happening I just keep having moments where it just doesnt seem to be pulling together how I thought it would

Taking a few deep breathes and then going to go to sleep and hopefully not wake up at 2am in a cold sweat...!

ah hun,
try not to stress too much, look at the weddings they do on "don't tell the bride" they always turn out amazing!! and they only have 3 weeks and they're men!! lol

the most important thing about your wedding day is that its about you and your H2B, have you already bought your dress?? if there is no possibility of changing it (if you're really that unhappy) can't you jazz it up abit, have a look through some bridal mags and see what they've done with sashes, vintage brooches, lace and birdcage veils.

what i did (when I kept changing my mind) was set a theme, ours is vintage glamour, and fixed everything around it, it really helps to have a centre of gravity (so to speak) and everything else fits around it.

you've still got time, less is more and to save money you could try making bits and pieces yourself, like name labels etc.

where there is a will there is a way, just sit down when you have an hour and write down everything you have for your day, and go from there, you'll be surprised how quickly things come together.

xxx

Just go with what you love and it will all come together in the end...also just because we look at lots of planning threads most of the guests don't!

Have the theme as your relationship and your special day - and have things you love that represent you!

Thanks both Someone sent me a message and told me to pull everything together in a planning thread - and I've been doing that for the past half an hour and I'm calming down as it is what we love. And just because I wont look like an extra from Poirot isnt the end of the world and I am very lucky as we all are to have found lovely people to marry us

I have no doubt that I will wake up worrying again in about a week - but this forum is always here to keep my feet on the ground!

Thanks again people - off to try and do my planning thread! x

if you spend less time stressing and more time sitting down and looking at things youl find you have lots of time. send a weekend to just sit down and think of what you want, write a big long list and have a look online for suppliers. when you find them ring them instead of emailing as you can get everything you want sorted in one go.

in one weekend i have found a new marquee supplier and booked it, booked my sound system, found a really good drag act from the selection that emailed me back in the time frame i set, sourced where i am getting all my sweet table bits from, found a choice of two bouncy castle firms and found a load of hotels. i have also updated my book and started sorting the font for my invites. i have also walked the dogs lots and cleaned the house so it hasnt been completely focused but i havent done any panicing!

just relax, you have plenty of time, and dont waste time with suppliers who take ages to get back to you

good luck, youl do just fine

Thanks Nats! I know...I think the stress is added to as my parents have rang me every day from N.Ireland asking the same questions over and over...what else do we need to do...when do we pay for this...who's doing this...they are panicking as they are out of their comfort zone and paying for something they've never seem before...

I think it's catching!!!

I've just laid it all out in the planning threads and I do feel better as it does look like the day I want - I just need to take a step back as at the end of the day the getting married bit is the main thing!!

Hello,

OK, sit back, have a deep breath & thi nk of something cute - puppies or something...

I feel for you - got engaged in Sept, wedding is in March this year and there is SO much to do. i had a bit of a freak out a few weeks ago & found that making a comprehensive list (I can send you my Excel spread sheet if you want it!) really helped - yes it showed some things are still urgent but it also showed how much we'd done. then I had a dedicated wedmin weekend & got so many little things sorted & felt *much* better.

The other two things that are helping is remembering that ultimately, the wedding is just a day - your marriage is for the rest of your life though. All that matters, ultimately, is that you & your H2B are both there.

Take care
Claire[b]

hi, there are so many things you can buy online for you wedding to save time and money, i just bought a veil from this website and saved myself £100.00,i have put the link below.

http://www.diamondweddingveil.com

The sooner you get married, the sooner you can enjoy the rest of your lives togteehr as man and wife. Surely you wouldn't want to delay that just to have longer to plan the day. Trust me, I've had 12 months, and it doesn't take away any of the stress!

In all seriousness, I think I am losing my mind with all the planning and I am just trying to remind myself not to get het up about it (I too rely on the theory that everythign always goes ok on don't tell the bride!). it's very silly, but when I get too stressed out, I read through the following posting I found that someone else had written on the web and try and put it in persecptive. I often fail, but I try!

"This is not the most important day of my life. The day my othre half and I realized we wanted to spend our lives together was much more significant than the day we will make it legal. I have had more important days than this, and I will continue to have more important days.
I refuse to pretend to be someone I'm not in order to please other people. I will not fool myself into thinking my family and friends have to drop their lives to help me with my wedding.

I will not put on airs. I will not kid myself or pretend to be something, or someone, that I am not. I am not wealthy, I am not a princess, I am not super-formal or cookie-cutter. I do not fit in with the crowd. I am a beautiful, elegant, unique person, and I will let my real self shine on this day.
I will let my worries about what other people think GO, and not be swayed so easily by what other people think (but isn't neccessarily right or the best thing). I MUST remember this, no matter how much I love them.
I will try to not be stressed. I will try to not be too sensitive, as I usually am.
I will not lose it if the flowers aren't everything I hoped for or the cake isn't the color I wanted.
I will not care if I cry too much and the pictures show it.
I will be flexible. I will not cry if the song order is wrong, or I trip on my way out of the carriage.
I will relax. I will take time to just enjoy all our favorite people.
I will take in the all the love instead of worrying about when to cut the cake.
I will kiss my groom whenever possible.
I will kiss my mother whenever possible.
I will think about the words during the ceremony, and feel them, and squeeze my husband's hand.
I will LAUGH, and HUG EVERYONE, and DANCE!"

Thanks all now that I think about it its more that I bought the dress so quickly....really only had one day to look and buy....but having spoken to a pal she was like oh the one (as in the dress) is such wedding spiel - hundreds of people will wear the same dress (unless custom made) so get over yourself! harsh but true and made me get over the dress issue (well for now! I'm up and down like a yo-yo!) x