TTC and Carer?..........(Might be long I apologise)

Hi all,

I don't know what to say really but feel that I have to put it down, I have very recently stopped taking my pill in order to have a baby, we got married about 3 months ago and my OH is 12 years older than me so it seemed like the right time.
Anyway my OH mum is in her 80's (she was in her mid 40's when she had him), they have a very close relationship, he is an only child and his father has been dead for over 10 years and never really gave a %&*$# anyway.
Anyway I will get on with it basically his mother is losing track of time eg having an afternoon nap and thinking it is then morning, not knowing what day it is etc. We are waiting for him to be able to speak to her GP at the mo to be able to address it properly, in the mean time we have discussed implications of her getting worse (I am a logical girl much to my husbands disguist!!), basically it was decided that as I don't earn as much as him and if it come to it I would have to look after her.
Now generally speaking I don't have a problem with this, I mean I don't really understand how people are close to their parents as I didnt see my mum for 11 years from 4 til 15 and my dad was out getting pi**ed and my nan brought me up, but I do get he loves her very much only child etc etc. The only problem is I dont see her too much/get on with her brilliantly/have anything in common so how am I meant to look after her when shes not so good?
Is it me???, I dunno but I feel weird at the mo like I want a baby but I may have a MIL to look after lol

Thanks alot for reading and I appreciate honest answers x x x x

hiya

wow....that is a big big decision hun.....it would be difficult looking after your own parent never mind someone elses....i think u and hubby should wait until he has spoken to the doctor and see what other options are available...there might be respite or even home helps who can cal on her a couple of times a day. whilst it is very sad for ur husband, he has to understand that your own life, together, has to go on. you have no way of knowing how long his mum will live for, she could keep going for years! would you be expected to look after her forever?

what im saying is, wait until you know exactly all your options, speak to everyone you can and explore all avenues before you make any decisions.

hope u get something sorted, keep us posted xx:\)