Are hen dos more hastle than they're worth?

Hi

I am starting to think that Hen dos are more hastle than they are worth.

I origionally wanted one but I have 3 groups of friends who don't know one another and family who want to come. I thought that would be a bit much to handle 4 groups with no real links so I thought if I have a house party for my friends then that would break the ice with them helping both the actual hen do go ok and wedding itself.

So I orginised it for tonight to have the girls around to my flat to see how they all got on. And of my 8 mates who initally said they could make it just 1 turned up.

Now I feel why bother with a hen do, if I am going to have 4 groups who are likely to end up as 4 cliques.

Please tell me what you'd do.





[Modified by: tommyg on 04 July 2009 03:03:09 ]

I'd speak to them all and tell them how you feel, they are your friends and i'm sure will make every effort for you to have a great night and mingle with each other.

I always find once the drinks start flowing a bunch of women get on great even if they dont know each other!

I didn't have a hen do because i couldn't be bothered with all the hassle neither did hubby we had a joint meal the night before the wedding with our two best friends and partners which worked for us.

I don't have any advice but in answer to the question on the thread then yes i think they are more hassle than they're worth! I really don't want to but unfortunately my friends disagree!!

I was in agreement with you guys untill I had mine which was full of different groups and it turned out to be a brillant time. Im so glad now as ive some fab memories and now all my friends know eah other x

My friend had hers a few weeks back and I bet she would have answered yes to this the week leading up to it. There were lots of things that made it stressful but in the end it turned out to be great and everyone had a lovely time.
It was a mix of her old friends, new friends, uni friends, family and h2bs family but only a small group so we all got on very well.

My only advice is not to expect them to fork out on something lavish - I spent a lot for that weekend and now I am planning my own wedding I think I could have done with it being a bit cheaper!! I know people are given notice and asked first but things always add up and I don't think it is fair on friends to expect them to pay out loads for you, especially when often it is on something that they might not normally be willing to spend cash on - we all have different priorities!

yes i think they are a lot of hassle!
had one 1st wedding not having one this time !!
instead im going for a few horses rides !!
filly

I think they can be a hassle but it depends what you do. I'm having my hen do in 2 wks time - just a lunch at a restaurant followed by cocktails in a bar. Its going to be a mixture of friends and family - some people know each other, others don't.

I've got a voucher for the restaurant which means that our main courses will only be £5 each and have arranged lifts into town to try to keep costs down for everyone. xx

Thanks for those responces I think I will go ahead with the plan to have one.