Nasty nightmare aunt - to invite or not?

Having a really crap time of it! Family drama that just doesnt seem to go away! All started back in September when I didnt pick my cousin as a bridesmaid. My aunty was not impressed, got heated and things were said. We havent spoken since. I just said at the end of the day it was my decision and they should simply support and be happy for me. Im not the biggest fan of my little cousin - spoilt little princess pampered to by my aunt. Anyway havent seen them since last year but they were invited to the wedding since it was my mums sister and to save anymore hassle. Had my hen night on Sat, the girls met at my mums before the limo picked us up. My aunty and gran were round too. I wasnt rude but I didnt make any effort to speak to my aunt and she also didnt make any effort to speak to me. I was like its my night, you started all this hassle so you finish it. Had all the girls round so wasnt really the time or place for any family stuff. My MIL2B came round to my mums as well. My aunt sat in a corner the whole time and didnt speak to anyone apart from my gran. A few of my friends noticed and commented on how anti-social she was. My mum wasnt happy that she didnt even give her a hand to give out drinks or put out food. That was me, my bridesmaid and my MIL2B.

Anyway I found out yesterday that my mum had offered to introduce my aunt to my MIL2B but my aunt made a face so my mum just left it. Me and all the girls left in the limo and when MIL2B was leaving she questioned my mum on why she wasnt introduced. My mum was mortified so went mental at my aunt when MIL2B had gone. My aunt said that the best mans girl and MIL2B had given her looks. I mean seriously what age is she! Mmmm considering that MIL2B hadnt been introduced, how would she have known who she was. My MIL2B has heard all my bridesmaid and family hassle but didnt know that was the aunt that had caused of all the drama.

My aunt has also said that if my cousin is sitting beside my best friend (who has no issues with her) at the wedding that her, her partner, her brother and her bro's partner will all walk out the wedding. I am absolutely fuming that she is trying to dictate the bloody table plan after all her crap. H2B is extremely angry at the accusation of dirty looks and my aunts attitude to his mum - totally understandable. My mum and aunt had a blow out and it ended up with my mum telling them not to come to the wedding. Not sure if thats a definite but me and H2B are now arguing about it. Both not keen on her coming but its my mums sister so dont want to upset my mum! Not sure what to do, think it best for them not to come as if thats how she acts on the hen night, can only imagine the wedding. I'll be stressed out enough on the day without all this crap! Sorry girls just needed to let this all out as its really getting me down. This is meant to be the happiest time but its being ruined by my aunts attitude.

Any advice welcome?

I would write a letter saying the offer of coming to the wedding was open, that you cared alot about her, BUT you wont be dictated to when it comes to your wedding. Stating it is YOURS and your H2BS day and she should be supportive not dictatative!!!

Honestly hun, letters work wonders. If she chooses not to come, then she can sit back and be miserable!

Muchos love
xxx

I think Kimmybob is absolutely right.
Write her a letter and say that she is family and of course you would love her, her daughter and everyone else with you on the most importnat day of your life BUT it IS your day and if she can't be supportive and behave responsibly on the day then perhaps it would be better if she didn't come.
Tell your Mum what you are doing so she can support you and understands what you are doing and why.
Good luck hun, hope it works for you.