Has anyone else's MIL2B made them feel bad?

Me and my H2B went to a family wedding at the weekend and I was talking to his mum about a wedding her and my FIL2B had gone to recently. She started ranting about how the bride thought she was a princess and was wearing a tiara and hair extensions and a big dress and that she thought it was ridiculous and that a bride should be a bride not a princess. She then asked me if I wanted to be a bride or a princess on my big day to which my reply was a princess bride!! She has made me feel really bad as my dress is very princessy and I am planning to wear a tiara. My FIL2B also joined in saying how silly he thought it was. Now I'm worried what they will think on the big day. Has anyone else experienced something similiar? I told my H2B and he didn't say alot, I also let slip that to him that I'm having a princess dress and I'm really annoyed now as he could look it up and see what kind of dress it is.

Firstly, he's a guy, I doubt very much he would look it up to check it out - I think most guys just don't even register so many things to do with weddings never mind actively research!!

As for your MIL and FIL - fine, they have their opinions and I guess they've done it all before and been to a fair few weddings in their time however, this is YOUR wedding. You can wear what you like and as long as H2B and you are happy don't worry. I think it's crap that they even asked you that anyway. Talk to your friends and close family and take advice and guidance from people you love and trust..just block out the uneccesary noise from all the others!

Some mil2b! I'm sure you'll look stunning, to be honest, who cares what they think, it's how you feel and what your h2b reaction is...why are some people unneseccarly nasty?

My mil2b hasn't commented on my dress, but when we told her that we were having a civil cermoney, she said "the only people in Ireland who have civil weddings are divocie's "(it's both of our 1st marriage, but I mean wtf?! It's not really an approipate thing to say!); his mum is Irish catholic and lives in Ireland, so hence the remark, but really. Just lucky I live in England, and have been spared any more choice bon mots...but honestly, some people

There's some MILs you will never please - I had one!!! - and it really isn't worth listening to their constant criticism. Right from the start everything was wrong - wrong sort of family, wrong sort of career, wrong sort of wedding in about 100 different ways, wrong to be able to get back into pre-pregnancy clothes quickly....the list goes on. Since my mum isn't an interferer it came as a shock at first but in the end I used to smile politely and ignore the miserable old baggage. A course of action I highly recommend!

Oh and blokes, in my experience, wouldn't BEGIN to start looking up "princessy dresses" on the internet, let alone discover which is yours!

Honestly? Stuff what she thinks. This is your special day and you should wear whatever you want to. Her opinion, at the end of the day, is just that. One persons opinion. I'm sure you'll look beautiful - you're not likely to have picked out a dress that makes you look bad!!

My mil2b is a witch. Which is why she is having no involvement or input in my wedding day. If she doesn't learn to behave like a grownup then she wont be coming at all, says my other half. She used to make me feel bad all the time, but now I remind myself that it doesn't matter what she thinks. What me and my OH want is what's important.

It sounds like your MIL2B is a little jealous..... ignore it !!

hi mrsashby2b,

I think your MIL2B might be trying to say, "oh look at those silly brides, who haven't realised its about being a bride and marriage, not some outfit", and I suspect she can see that you are completely in love with her son, and knows you are going to be a lovely bride, which is why she is saying it in front of you. I think she means that those that go for a certain look are loosing sight of the reasons they are there.

It doesn't make it right, you should wear whatever you feel the best in, on your wedding day, whether that is a princess dress, jeans, or butt naked. BUT I think she meant no harm, and I hope you feel a little better about it.

x

Ignore her. It's your wedding, and your dress. You might not like what she is planning to wear, but you probably have the courtesy to keep that one to yourself. The outfit my Mil2b has chosen is truly hideous, but I unfortunately can't dictate what she wears to her sons wedding, same as your mil2b shouldn't be trying to dictate what you wear to yours. And anyway, most brides look like princesses, whether it's a princessy dress or not! I'm not even sure that there is much difference between looking like a bride and a princess anyway. I would certainly have though that tiaras are more bridal, what else are you supposed to wear with a veil? And if they are not bridal - why does EVERY bridal shop sell them?!

Honestly, the woman does not know what she is talking about!

Also agree with the others that your h2b is very unlikely to look up your dress. He probably wants it to be a surrpise, apart from the fact that men just don't go around looking up wedding dresses!

Hi

When i was dress shopping with my mum and sister, we had a choice of 2 very different dresses, a princessy type dress or a classy sleak one and both my mum and sister said they were both gorgeous but to choose the one i felt most special in as it is the one day you can dress up and be a princess!!
All i am trying to say is it is your day, everyone will have their own opinions but wear and do what you want and what feels right for you.
Ignore your MIL2b and go with your heart

Happy planning ladies

xxx

This is the worst thing about getting married. Everyone tells you to not pay attention to other peoples opinions regading your big day but its so hard not to listen or at least get riled isnt it?

My MIL is the nicest person you'll ever meet. Butter wouldnt melt. Yet when it comes to buying me clothes, yknow like as a gift, she will consistently get me them in sizes Large or Xtra Large even though she KNOWS im a size 6-8. Ive told her a million times. I dont know why she deliberately gets the bigger sizes, hubby thinks its her way of expressing her jealously as she used to be a bit of a model and now shes... well... older and rounder then she was, whereas im not. But it does get very tiring going 'oh thanks, yeah, its lovely, i can just tie a belt round it and it will be fine'. Maybe she just thinks ill grow into it. Maybe shes saying im fat. I dont really know.

Some women just dont know how to applaud their fellow woman. Try and set an example to her and show her whos more mature and dignified. Im often so shocked at how appalling older womens manners are these days! Were people dragged up in the 50s/60s?? lol

I agree with all the ladies on here. I think she was just trying to push your buttons when making those comments, it's exactly the type of thing my miltb would say to me. I think it's a lot to do with the jealousy of ‘losing’ their son to another woman (it is in my case anyway!) Ignore her silly comments and enjoy looking beautiful on your big day! x

Girls, I think that if we ever have a son, we'll be led into a special room when he turns 16 and let in on some kind of secret law that will require us to transform into spiteful cows when he finds a woman he wants to marry! My MIL2B is a lovely woman generally, but by God has she come up with some ways of really digging at me over these last few months! Including telling me I was not in the 'same league' as certain other people getting married and therefore shouldn't think about having X, Y or Z. I'm in my own league, piss off!

OMG I don't believe it - almost every bride wears a tiara. It's your the only day you get to marry your Prince Charming, look and feel like a princess (as well as a bride)

You do what want my love and don't let their stupid comments put you down!x

Just ignore the old bat lol x

OMG you ladies have some stories - likewise on the whole get on fine with MIL2B until the wedding - she has moaned constantly about being in the background (I am completely anal and had to do everything myself as I am SOOOO picky!) yet when took her to my dress fitting all she said was she wished she hadn't come as it'd ruined the surprise and then the next day at the banns reading thought it was hilarious to try to raise her hand when the vicar asked for anyone to come forward if they knew why we couldn't get married. Hilarious - Not. And I have a friend who's MIL2B has actually said she is JEALOUS of the couple's relationship together - bizarre. Always a tricky relationship to have.