Not living together but getting married

Am I Crazy for wanting to be married before i have children even though me and partner don't live together we just spend every night together.

Am I Crazy for wanting to be married before i have children even though me and partner don't live together we just spend every night together.

I personally wouldnt of go married without living with h2b first! we have been living together for over 2 years now and the first year we went through alot of hard times! emotionaly and finacially and there was a momment that we could of split up!! but we have worked through everything and we now know that we can survive the rough aswel as the smooth!!

Its not just about spending time together its the little things like the washing up and cooking and cleaning and each others habbits (you really dont know them until you live together even is you think you do!) then there is the finacial stress too!!

Having said that my parents married then lived together after and have been together nearly 29 years!! What works for one wont for others!!xx

hi, i got married in june after being together for five years, after the wedding he moved in with me and my parents for a little while (he has exams really soon and didnt want him to have moving house to put even more pressure on him)
anyway, i thought i knew him inside out as we saw each other everyday for the last five years but believe me living together is MUCH different. i thought it wouldnt be but it really is. and putting up with each others habits can be really, really difficult lol. wish we had lived together a bit before so that we could have worked through those kinks beforehand lol, still love him more than anything but simple habits can be VERY annoying when you know you have to put up with them forever

maybe you should move in together a few months before the big day, nice to come home to the same place as h2b

sorry for long message, got a bit carried away

Mrs T xox

I would strongly suggest living together first, its a whole different kettle of fish! I have lived with my H2B since I was 19 for 3 years, we are getting married next year and I would never marry someone I had not lived with, spending time together every night is different to doing chores, cooking cleaning, paying bills etc. x

I agree with the other ladies. Our plan was always to save up and buy a house then save up again and get married. I think that it's so different living with someone to spending all your time together.

It's all about shared responsivility, compromise and dealing with things that you might not agree with or might not like. Although you i'm sure already do this, times that by about 20 and that's how things change.

H2b and i have only been living together for 3 months because we saved up for 2 years to buy our own place (been together for almost 5) and it is definitely a challenge to live with someone. Not something i would change but i would reccommend living together properly before you get married .

For me, it's a neccessity.

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I'm not a young bride but me and my H2B can't live together until we're married for religious reasons! I know it's going to be tough living together especially because his mum does everything for him at the moment and I will certainly not be waiting on him hand and foot!!

If you're willing to enter in to marriage then your marrying all the good and bad bits of each other!! Somethings you just gotta put up with!!

S xx

I really would move in before you think about getting married. How can you know you want to spend the rest of your life together if you dont know if you can live together?? xx

everyone keeps saying live together first but is that not just your personal opinion i mean me and my partner have been through so much already and we still pay bills together and have joint responsibilities and we spend every night together and day and haven't spent a night apart for a year some of the stuff we have been through is what other people will never go through and yet we are stronger than any couple we know we struggle now but the fact is you wil never know everything about someone not even after 50 years but thats why you choose to marry someone so you can learn every good, every sad and even every bad thing about them isn't that what love is about.

Its your choice, no-one is telling you what to do- you asked for opinions and that is what people are giving you.
I personally wouldnt marry someone i didn't live with- However strong you are as a couple, things can change when you are with eachother all the time.

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i don't live with my h2b. we don't plan to live together until nearer the wedding. some ppl say to live together and know their habits and stuff. but the way i c it is if u love each other u'll come to agreements about each other problems and habits. no one is perfect and life is about give and take. if u don't want to live with him until after the wedding then thats fine. u do what u want to do

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i got married in june and moved in with my hubby two weeks after we got together. then we were engaged after three months and married eighteen months later. it seems to me that your asking everyone for their opinions but you have already made your mind up about living together and as long as you know what you want as a couple thats all that matters

We aren't moving in together until we are married. There are several reasons for this.
1) religion (on my part, not his)
2) turns out he has moved 650 miles away for work while I have to stay at home (parents) to finish my degree
3) I can't afford to move out of parent's house at the moment cos I'm still a student (even if he did still live near me).

Personally I think it should be compulsory to live with the person you're going to marry. You really don't know someone until you've lived with them.

I think it's personal preference about whether you want to live with h2b before you get married. Personall I don't want to live with my h2b until we are married, like a few people because of religious reasons. But saying that I want to have my own place before I get married so that we have a place to live after we get married. And also the same as you I don't want to have any children until I after i'm married and my h2b agrees. But again I think it's personal preference and it's up to you what you do!! Congratulations by the way and good luck with the future
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