Honestly! do you think its cheeky asking for money as a gift

I know theres probably a few threads asking the same thing but I thought I'd bore you with another one!

My h2b wants to put it in writing that we would like money as a gift, my h2b's parents keep saying we should just ask for money too but I just feel cheeky about doing it. As a guest at a wedding it doesnt bother me that people ask for money or have gift lists in fact if anything I think well at least they are getting what they want but now thats our turn I just cant seem to do it:roll:

My h2b's parents said if we're (meaning me) uncomfortable about asking then they'll just tell people we want money. I said this was fine but only if people ask.

We were settled in our house for two years then we got enaged. I really appreciated everything we got but...............we got loads of vouchers for places that we didnt need anything from and we got numerous sets of wine glasses which we'll never use.

I can see why you might prefer cash but I would feel cheeky too, as guests feel they have to be more generous when the amount is known, compared to buying a gift x

Yes, I think it's cheeky. We don't want gifts but we'd really like cash, we're not putting anything in the invitations though. Instead we're going to tell close family and friends and get them to spread the word. There's nothing that says that guests have to give gifts or money, I even find it cheeky when people include a gift list with their invites!

I dont think its cheeky at all, and wouldn't be offended if thats what people wanted. On saying that I know a lot of people, especially older people who don't like it as they like to hand over a gift. Maybe if you tell people what the money is going towards, e.g. house deposit, new car, new kitchen they would be happier rather than thinking it may end up being used for your weekly supermarket shopping or to pay for your wedding!

I dont think its cheeky at all. I would just be glad that I knew what the happy couple would want, instead of them ending up with lots of gifts that they dont need.

How about a list like blisslist or justthegift where you can choose things like honeymoon, money towards such other items like facet suggested, i personally think its nice to know roughly what the money is/could be going towards.

We're asking for money for our honeymoon. I think it depends what your guests are like! I know ours are all fine about us asking for money. If their not than thats their qualm, they can buy us a toaster if they are that offended by it. But I know our F&F would rather ensure we got something we wanted. Putting it on an insert in the invite is a good reminder for them, because people forget. If its in print they wont!!

This is what we have said on the invitations

It is your presence not your present that we want on our wedding day, but if you wish to give us a gift, contributions to our honeymoon would be gratefully received.

Wer're not telling them to give us money, we're just 'guiding' them, and I think importantly we are saying what it will be spent on.

I think it's cheeky, we haven't put anything in invites, Family have asked and our mums have said to people if they really want to give then to give cash as we're renovating the house but it's not expected/necessary

We are putting a little poem in stating that we have our household stuff, would love to get away so if people want to get something then we'd appreciate contributions to honeymoon. But the best gift is having them with us on our day. Short and sweet... a bit cheesy! xx

Ah yeah, I meant to say that as well.... I think it depends on your guests, and I think ours will be totally fine with it. xx

No I don't think its cheeky at all, people have moved with the times and every wedding I have been to in the last 3 years giving money has just been standard, to be honest I think the majority of guests will be glad that they don't have to ponder over a gift. xx

I dont find it cheeky. The last few weddings i have been to i have given money anyway. I personally prefer it as it saves hunting around for a gift lol x

i think its really cheeky, but then i think gift lists are too, lol.

im going to have a mass of toasters arent i LOL, x

Yes I do, and I hate gift lists too!

We asked everyone just to bring themselves and nothing else.

We got a lot of very lovely, thoughtful presents!!!!! A lot of which were M and S and John Lewis vouchers!

LOL tootifrooti I feel the same. We did a gift list but i just couldnt put it in invite I felt sooo cheeky! I think I'd rather have a gift someone has thought about and chosen for us. If we end up with a mass of toasters so wat, they dont last forever and we'll have a supply of new toasters for years to come LOL x