Already causing problems..... Grandmother Rant

Well as some of you may know I only booked the church a couple of weeks back and I have been left a little unsure of whether I can have the date i chose because another lady hadn't decided which date on June she wanted..

Unfortunately my Nan has been prone to favouritism... With her children and grandchildren.. My father and uncle 1 aren't top of my nan's list and she has no issue letting people know this, even tellin people at my cousins wedding in Australia that my Uncle 1 had stolen somebodys pen because "he was a scummy toerag like that" But my auntie and Uncle 2 cannot do anything wrong even though my auntie is a compulsive liar and trouble maker and my uncle 2 has thrown her over a car bonnet and gone to punch her.......... siiiiiiggghhhh

She has since continued this throughout with the grandchildren with auntie and uncle 2 kids coming first always.....with my nan picking up my cousin from school when it has been raining ( cousin lives 10 minutes away) and simply honking her horn at me before continuing on her journey leaving me to walk a mile and half home in rain etc even though she had seen me... ANYWAY



My grandmother walked into my house last week and the first thing she said to me....

" is that for the wedding you didnt tell me about"

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I am not even sure if I will be able to get married on 10 June 2011 as planned so why would I mention it to anyone until I knew the date..

My Nan can be a funny sod at time and had invited the cousin of mine to my engagement party and to my twins christening etc. I hadnt invited them because they ALL turn their noses up at us even though they are no better than we are.... It makes me so mad...

Im concerned she will start telling me I should be inviting and how i should be going about things..

She also piped up she didnt agree with sex before marriage.... Bit late considering I have 2 year on twins and a 5 month old

I know I sound completely desperate and pathetic but my nan seems to let me and my siblings down because she is ashamed of my dad Even though he has done nothing wrong,,,

She called my dad to me a few months back and basically told me he was a complete A hole to my mum and with held all the money from her which obviously upset me because I knew it wasnt true...

I am just so cross at her.. She doesnt care about us normally...

Just tell your Nan that yes, you're getting married but you don't have a firm date yet as it's not booked for definite! No-one else knows anything for certain either - she shouldn't think it's a huge secret you're keeping from her. But I'd keep the finer details a secret if I were you, she sounds like the type to sneer at your plans.

You're not obliged to discuss your arrangements with her other than to tell her the date, time and location - and only if you WANT to invite her. I'd be wary of saying too much to anyone else either within the family - there is evidently a grapevine. Say nothing (even to those family members that are OK with you) and then there's nothing for her to find out about. Moaning old trouts like her have a way of wheedling information out of people. Of course you could spread a few false rumours about your plans to throw her off the scent!

Bamba xx

PS - this thing about sex before marriage - are you the ONLY person in your family who's had kids out of wedlock? It's so commonplace nowadays that I'm sure that even her "favourite" children and grandchildren might have transgressed!

Noppe.. my uncle number 2's daughter has a son and one on the way she lives with his parents and hasnt had a job since she left school at 16.. Its like she has her priorities and morals in the wrong place. She seems to chase after the ones of leech off her etc

The uncle 2 and my auntie i dont speak to and havent done since i was about 13... I lost all respect for them when my uncle was aggresive with my nan and when my auntie moved away and spread a load of lies...

I always feel like second best. or rather i dont feel anything from my grandmother... I just dont see she has any right... and i will stop speaking to her if she voluntarily invites people to my evening do...

I do have my youngest daughters christening coming up in May so I will see if she invites anyone..

She is such a busybody

his parents being her bboyfrien lol...... and my sister has 3 children 1 within wedlock the other two not...