Missing my friend

I fell out with a close mate of mine just after I got engaged (posted about it earlier) and although we've fought in the past, we've always managed to make up. This time it's different and after she made a scene at my engagement I just found it really hard to reconcile things, but organising the wedding just isn't the same without her. She knows me really well - far better than most other people, and she's also organising her own wedding. I feel gutted that I'm missing out on it and just want to ring her up and tell her I miss her...but am worried we might not be able to resolve our issues and since I was the one to say I couldn't talk to her for a while, am not sure what to do.

Part of me knows and worries she can't change but I'd rather have her in my life as a distant mate than not at all...any help?

Email her and be honest with her if you want a full resolve, theres no point in just getting on with it or brushing it under the carpet

Take the bull by the horns and tell her who you feel from the bottom of your heart.

Most peoples lack of empathy goes towards a lot of break up and once the other party has it spelt out to them and understand and see things from the other side then usually both parties realise its silly, wasn't meant, taken out of context, to wrapped up in own problems ect ect

Ring her!! I had the exact same thing happen and I kept getting close to ringing then thinking actually it's her issue or im in the right or whatever but the longer it got the more and more I missed her and I had to make the decision of do I want her in my life or not? the answer was yes and I had to decide to forget what had gone before or we'd never get back what once was a brilliant friendship!
My friend had missed me too but didn't want to ring incase I ignored her/shouted.

What I'm trying to say is - I'd rather try to make up than to not bother and never know. Hope it works out for you xxx

One of my MOH's and I had a bit of a fall out last year. In hindsight, both of us were going through some pretty difficult times but we had been friends for 20 years and I didn't want to lose her friendship.

We sort of had a cooling off period (she deleted me off Facebook which really peed me off) and then I wrote her an email which led her to an email where we both were able to write down how we felt and it was really good.

She felt very stressed with her life and she admitted she dealt with stress in a negative way... anyway emails led to texts and then texts led to calls and before long our friendship had re-established itself. It doesn't help that we live a few hours away from each other but we do stay in touch and I am asking her for opinions and that for the wedding so yes do bite the bullet and get in touch with her!

There is another friend who lost touch with 3 of us in our crowd (over a bloke!) and she has never once contacted us again which is a real shame as all 4 of us were close. I am sure you don't want this to happen from your post.
Good luck! xx

Email or write to her, you get those I am sorry card grey with the teddies on the front looking sad,tell her how you feel if she does not rreply then her loss you have tried.

I know how you feel. I would definitley try and make contact with her. I know part of you will feel angry and not want to bother making the effort but the other part like you said will be really missing her. Its hard.

I've had this happen to me a few times in my life, its not always been due to a fall out but now Im sitting here feeling so lonely, my wedding is a few months away and I feel I'm missing out big time as I have no true friend to spend it with. My MOH is a freind but we're not that close, so a lot of the time I feel as if Im using her as if to say to people 'see I do have freinds'.

A few years ago I was really close this girl in work, we got on so well, we could talk to each other about anything and then she fell out with me over a stupid untrue comment that someone else made, after that it was like walking on egg shells, we've just totally drifted apart as if we were never friends. It really hurts as I see her in the office everyday, its like rubbing salt into the wound. I felt rejected as she believed the Stirrer of the office over me, she made such a big deal over it that it makes think that she obviously wasnt really my friend if she fell out with me so easily. I still miss her but sometimes you do get fed up with being pushed away

Miss July I know how you feel. I was best friends with a girl for 8 years and then the usual thing happened - she met a guy!

We didnt fall out but she stopped responding to my attempts to meet up and eventually I stopped asking. We haven't spoken in 2 years except for a brief chat when we bumped into each other once.

I do miss her and I feel sad that she wont be there on my wedding day but it is too late for us. If you do really care about this girl get in touch now and fight for the friendship.

Good luck.

xx