Anyone else stressed about too fewer guests? x

Hi Ladies

As the title indicates, is anyone else feeling stressed about this?

We have sent out around 65 day invites and around 30 evening invites. We only sent them out rwo weeks ago and only had 1 reply so far. When we have spoken to a few people they have said that they won't be able to make it and also with my partners family living in wales the expense of coming down is also putting people off!

Another problem I have is that my mum and her sister have fallen out. As my mum and dad are paying for the reception she has said that she doesn't want her sister (my aunty there). I find this difficult as I have not fallen out with her but I can see why my mum doesn't want her there as she has been nasty to my mum.

I am worried that if not many people come the atmosphere will not be good and the room will look bare. Another problem is that England might be playing Germany on our wedding day and it will be in the evening. As we are having our reeption in a hotel the footie will be on in the bar area so another excuse for people to leave the main room to watch it.

Ooohhh i just want my wedding to be fun and for the guests to enjoy themselves and not be bored! :\(

Sorry to hear that hun. When do you get married?

I wouldn't worry about not getting rsvps quickly as we sent ours out in Feb and only got one email reply. Mind you we chased most of the other people and now we have 6 maybes at the moment and we get married in May. You might need to chase people.

Do you have the option of reducing your day guests if you don't get all your numbers without any penalty? We invited 38 people to our wedding so yes its a tiny wedding but everyone is going to be spoilt rotten as we had our food tasting session last night and the food was out of this world.

I'm happy that our numbers are small as i think that what matters is having the people that mean the most to be around you

Don't fret. Everything will work itself out in the end

Hi
What a lot to think about. Tricky about your Mum and Aunty, have you invited your aunt as you have sent the invites? Is it likely that your Mum and aunt will make up in the future? As if it is then your aunt not being at the wedding will always be something that could be brought up. Can you speak to your aunt and ask for her to make amends with your mum for your sake for the wedding?

What is the RSVP date? have you left lots of tme between it, do you have minimum numbers at the venue?

In regards to the football this happened to a friend of mine so they worked it so that the time for setting up the evening fitted around the football, The people at the wedding watched if for while the room was being set up but did come back to the wedding for the rest of it. The better time to do this will be the second half but just an idea.
Do you have any evening guests you can upgrade to day guests? Explaining to them that things were tight with numbers but as some family can't come you would love for them to be there all day

Hi,

I feel the exact same way, we've only invited 44 guests in the daytime and that includes me, h2B and our two children.

We have invited upto 120 altogether in the evening but a lot of those won't be coming. I keep stressing that there won't be anyone there but didn't want to just invite people for the sake of it!

H2B keeps telling me that so long as we are there then nothing else matters and I know he has got a point I'd still like everyone to have a nice time and not be bored. xx

Why will people be bored at weddings? Two f you have said it. The numbers of guests won't make a difference to whether people are bored or not, that will come from the atmosphere of the day, the entertainment etc

I'm not sure bored is the right word really, but if there aren't many people there, the guests that are there won't feel like they can get up and have a dance, it's like nobody will want to be first but the more of you that there are the easier it is to relax and blend in.

Just going on my family here, strength in numbers so to speak. I find there is usually a bit atmosphere if there are lots of people there enjoying theirselves xx

If you are too worried, ask a few friends to go in group and get the dancing started, though make sure that they are people happy to do this, I would have several friends that would do this, especially if a group of them

Thats a pretty good idea. I'm sure that everything will be fine and on my day I'm hardly going to do a head count but I do tend to worry about these sorts of things! xx

Thanks girls, i'm glad i'm not the only one and my hubby to be keeps saying that as long as me and him are there thats all that matters. I went to a wedding not long ago and it was pretty bad! No one was dancing,the groom was in the bar area all night and people left really earlier! By about 10;30 there was only about 20 people left...I don't want that to happen! I want the wedding to be as much fun and easy going as possible and just for people to have a good party. I am sure you girls are right and we are all just worrying for nothing. Do any of you have anything extra planned for the evening? I have a sweetie table and will also have sky lanterns....which should look pretty xxx

That is my exact nightmare, us women really are worriers aren't we! I'm sure our husbands are right!

I'm having a sweetie table too, all the more for me if everyone leaves early ha ha. we're also having a key ring photographer so people can get keyrings made up. I like the idea of sky lanterns but h2b family had some at new years eve and watching them trying to let them off after a few drinks put me off a bit. I'm sure as long as you have some sensible people there it will go fine though.

oh im so glad im not the only one worry about lack of numbers lol,were aving 41 to the day and so far only 80 to night do.its also knowing where to draw the line ,family and friends you avnt seen in ages ???i feel im being a bit picky lol ..my mind in a whirl at minute wedding stuff 1 min then honeymoon and hen do arghhhhh...im sur us ladies just want to worry over everything eh