When your plans just dont seem to work out...

Well being a bit of a wedding control freak we have everything all planned out right down to the seating plan.

We are having a fairly smallish wedding with close family and friend who have been a part of our lives.

Our venue is restricted to 62 for the meal which we have managed to get perfectly.

The only children we were having during the day was a page boy and flower girl both who will be around 3 at the time of the wedding.

H2B sister has just announced she is preg and his other sister is attempting baby number 2 (baby no1 is flower girl)

I am sooooo over the moon for everyone and absolutely do not expect anyone to put there lives on hold for our wedding my only stress is that we actually dont have any space to the extra little people

I contacted our venue to ask about this and a baby chair counts as one space and they wont allow babies to sit on mum's knee or anything due to H&S and cant imagine it would be a comfortable meal for mum's and dads holding babies!!!

Really dont know what to do!!!

I suggested a potential baby table in an adjoining room and we would just have to invite children (most of our friends have kids) but h2b is saying that we need to draw a line somewhere.....but I find it very difficult to say yes to some children and no to others???

The kids table would have about 10 people on it age ranging from about 10 to 6 months old....so we would need to hire a child minder to look after them? which is even more cost!!!

Ah!!!!

H2B is saying that he is going to ask his sis who is trying to 'tie a knot in it for a couple of months so that she is preg at the wedding'!!! But I said that you just can not do that to people and they would rightly tell him to go take a jump!!!

Short of knitting spaces we are stuck???

L xx :\?

don't stress, generally 10% of guests decline the invitation. In addintion to several declining the invitiation I even had 4 people drop out the week before 3 due to ill health and 1 due to work commitments she couldn't get out of. Wait till you get your replies.

then id you are still over you would be perhaps best to speak to them and work together to find a solutions perhaps the other granny could come and get the older ones

I used to be a wedding co-ordinatior and have seen the kids room - you would need to hire a professional company with the proper insurance, certificates and proceedure to look after the kids. Parents can be funny about these companies so you would need to check they are all happy with this. They are quite expensive but do remember they are looking after people children - a rather important job.

Ah bless you - I'm having a children-at-wedding issue too so totally empathise. You are being incredibly sympathetic and reasonable, which is lovely - it's easy to be bridezilla over these problems.

We are having a similar sized wedding to yours and the two babies that are coming will be 9 months old - I've not mentioned them to my venue because as far as their mothers are concerned, they'll be in their baby carriers - either asleep (most likely) or being fed. It's not reasonable for your venue to consider them to be old enough to count as a seat - they're babies for goodness sake. They won't be eating and there’s every chance they’ll be asleep so why push up the cost of your wedding and feed ten children just so that your venue is happy with the system?

It's your day, have it your way - if you don't want children then don't have them. The babies will be fine in their carriers or on laps, and mums and dads are used to babies being on their laps and while it's not ideal, I'm sure that they would rather do that than think you'd had to pay out so much more money. Your venue will just have to live with it.

Also, a children's table in another room with six month old babies won't necessarily make it easier – I’ve no experience on this, but I wouldn't be surprised if it were actually more complicated as mums and dads go in and out keeping an eye on things, especially with a baby. Plus you'd need more than one childminder for 10 children.

Honestly, hun: my SIL2B gave me a great piece of advice when I was stressing about my issue and that was: whatever happens, you'll not notice it on the day. There will be so many things going on, if a baby is on a lap or not, you'll not notice. You’ll be too busy getting married and being told how gorgeous you look!

Good luck!!

XX

hiya, i agree with lulabelle6, i think if the babys are that young, they wont be able to sit up r anything by that time anyway? so i would say the young ones would just stay in a carrier/buggie? whens the wedding? has everyone rsvp'd yet?

Ha ladies thanks for your replies..

You'll never believe it but sis number 2 trying for baby no 2 just called h2b to tell him she is preg now also!!!!! Due the same week as her sis!!!

I am over the moon for them!!!

Thanks for your kind words ladies, at the end of the day we will get there....no point stressing now as things are very likely to change as we get nearer.

And having all these babies around will just keep my broodiness in check until me and h2b can start our own wee family.

Thanks again girls
L xx