MIL getting on my nerves

This ain't a major drama, but wanted to have a moan to someone.

Went to MIL yesterday (mothers day) to drop off h2b's card and gift (that I went out and brought !). During inate conversation she dropped out that she'd asked her friend to collect a female relative (on h2b's side of family), and take them to the church. Which don't seem like much - however we have not as yet sent out any invites and have already decided that the 2 people in question would only be invited to the evening reception not the whole day.
I mentioned this to h2b when we got home (in passing, so's not to create a big deal of it). H2b is very easy going (especially when it comes to his mother) and his reply was "we'll just add them to the list". I was livid, I did explain that if everyone just assumed that they could attend the service and wedding breakfast we would incurr a HUGE bill that we can't afford. What I really wanted to say was what the hell gives your mother the right to invite who shes wants when she wants when she has done bugger all since we set a date (infact she pulled her house as our engagement party location with 1 week to go).
I know that when the invites go out MIL will go straight to H2b to get him to get her own way.
We are on a small budget which has been funded by my dad (my mother passed away some years ago) and us so we really can't afford to add extra people to wedding breakfast. But more importantly its the principle. I bearly know this friend of hers so why should we invite her.

Wheres theres a wedding theres a interferring relative right lol.

If you're getting married in a church, anyone can attend the service; you can't turn them away. Perhaps they are just planning to watch the service.

We had this happen, when we done our list my H2B is very easy going but he has got quite tough with his mother as she gets a bit too excited, they asked if we could invite some people who REALLY wanted to come to our wedding, we discussed it and agreed to invite keep the peace (we are havinga small wedding on a tight budget) invites went out and got a wedding regret saying they couldn't come so just a big waste of time all round. One thing im learning with wedding be firm but fair its your day doen your way!! x

Evil sooooo true....No but goodness im with you! why should u invite them when u hardly know them... it would be common courtesy if she was paying or helping out with the wedding but no!!!!
Athough Its a bit late, i would have jumped in a said "sorry we havnt sorted invites out" so at least she would be aware her mate wasnt already invited...

Dop as many hints as possible that you cant afford any extra people before she gets carried away.
Only close friends and family are invited.... although you shouldnt have to... keep apoligizing... but put a stop to it now before she gets worse.

maybe they might just come and watch the service but i cant understand people that do that,its seems way too much trouble to come to church when they are only invited to the evening its would be a bit humiliating... you'd think they would get the hint EVENING!

how long before you get married?

I can empathise with this, MIL2B insisted on us inviting her two friends to the ceremony & wedding breakfast. H2b had lots of arguments with her over it, as we're keeping numbers low. He tried to explain that we've had 2 cut some our our friends out of the day, which doesn't look good when we're inviting theirs! Plus we'd both much rather have our friends there instead.
In the end, we caved in & they are paying for the two extra meals instead! x

We get married in 5 months. And Im trying to be fair all round (without having a take over or family war lol).

Hi didnt want to R&R i no exactly what your going through im in same sort of situation and it is so annoying that they think they have a right especially if your H2B is a mommys boy! When we announced our engagement party H2B mom was dead against it cost too much money etc but i went ahead and payed for everything ourselfs asked and asked about guests for invites signed and sealed then like 3weeks before party ohh i have to invite so and so and so and so no its MY party and i dont want people there i dont no anyway night of the party came people were coming up congratulating me and H2b i nor he had a clue who these people were... then booked our venue for wedding and we stressed that it was close family and friends to the WB and all of a sudden this uncle comes out of no where that must be invited as he is father of the groom brother me nor my H2B has had any contact with this uncle since we have been together i offered a evening invite but not good enough however i have uncles that wont be coming because were not close it is so unfair they think they have a say when they arent evan paying sorry to take over your post just glad im not the only one who has a bossy MIL lol