Anyone else worried that not many guests are going to come?

Hi Ladies

As the title indicates, is anyone else feeling stressed about this?

We have sent out around 65 day invites and around 30 evening invites. We only sent them out rwo weeks ago and only had 1 reply so far. When we have spoken to a few people they have said that they won't be able to make it and also with my partners family living in wales the expense of coming down is also putting people off!

Another problem I have is that my mum and her sister have fallen out. As my mum and dad are paying for the reception she has said that she doesn't want her sister (my aunty there). I find this difficult as I have not fallen out with her but I can see why my mum doesn't want her there as she has been nasty to my mum.

I am worried that if not many people come the atmosphere will not be good and the room will look bare. Another problem is that England might be playing Germany on our wedding day and it will be in the evening. As we are having our reeption in a hotel the footie will be on in the bar area so another excuse for people to leave the main room to watch it.

Ooohhh i just want my wedding to be fun and for the guests to enjoy themselves and not be bored! :\(

Me!!!! I'm very worried about the majority of people not staying very long and lots of people being on holiday with it being mid August. I'm worried about the dancefloor being empty too! I know it may seem silly but I'm not getting married to be the centre of attention - it's all about celebrating with people closest to me that matters and I just think that the majority of family will leave at the start of the evening reception due to the loud music, their age or children. Hope it doesn't sound selfish but I know what our families are like!

I am a little worried that people will say they are coming then pull out at the last minute or just not turn up!
(this happened to my brother at his wedding)

me too im exactly the same , im also worried it will be boring - i hope not !!!!

I am worried too, our wedding is a Wednesday in August. Worried people won't want to take 1 or 2 days off work, or that they will forget about our wedding and book holidays like they did to my brother last year for his wedding. We need 70 minimum to get the nice room in the venue. If we get moved to the other room I'd rather have a different venue!!! We also have lost friends recently due to moving around and also some fall outs, so numbers lower than ever. Originally wanted to have 100, now we will be inviting about 85 and hoping and praying at least 70 will say yes. And yes, I am also worried it will be boring for people too!

Me!! We're getting married in Greece and although that's "home" for me, it isn't for most of our guests. Sadly some people can't make it - especially people who I thought would - and I'm a bit upset but, it's a chance we took.

Either way, we're going to have to pay for 150 people so will send out a second round of invites ASAP.

We are renewing our vows mid August and my husband still isnt that keen only because he thinks no one will come lol. We have some close friends but all our time goes into our 4 kids and you tend to forget to keep in touch sometimes with others, our fault i know. Its going ahead anyway and so far only had one say they are away on holidays, we dont get back from ours til the 13th and our vows are on the 14th........mad i know!

MrsAClarketobe is your pic your wedding ring? I bought that last week to replace my original ring, i love it.

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Im worried too.

We are having a "smallish" number of 50 in the daytime, thats including 6 kids. Im not so worried about that. Its the evening guests turning up Im worried about.

We are inviting another 150 at night, but ive convinced myself that no one will bother to come.It keeps me awake at night. Thankfully our reception room, isnt all that big, so even if half come, I suppose it will still look busy enough. Not the point though!
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Yeah Im worried about that too!

We are only inviting or nearest and dearest to the ceremony/meal which is about 50 people. We haveny sent out our invites yet but we've listed 70 guest for evening invites. Problem is we are putting opened invitation up in each of our work places...........so Im not going to about numbers until they actually show up.
I have a bad feeling that I wont get many from my work and I dont really want to go round people asking them if they are coming or not and think my h2b is the same:roll: The real annoying thing is the four girls that I work with closely (ageing from 21 to 50) dont go out to anything. I feel myself already getting annoyed with them even though they havent told me no yet:roll:

My Mum want to invite loads of people, h2b said it our party and not my mum which I totally agree with, I dont have a problem telling my Mum she cant have all her friends but in the other hand if we have the space then why not.

My h2b has lots of friends to invite which is great but I know he wont chase them for an answer:roll:

miss july I was in the same situation, h2b and I originally felt really funny about family friends of both parents coming as we are limited to about 70 in the day but now me and h2b have all friends and family who we want there in the day and have said to our parents they can invite whoever they like in the eve as we have no limit on evening guests. I am quite happy with all people who are invited to eve and we are expecting about 90 eve guests which will be nice as hopefully we will have quite an intimate day and more party atmosphere in eve. xxx

We are only having 50 people and I'm fairly certain that half of FH's side aren't going to come. This would be OK because that would mean I can invite more of my friends (he has a huge family so i have had to cut back on my side to accommodate them!) BUT they're the sort of people who won't bother to tell us if they're coming or not until about a week before or like someone else said just not turn up on the day, so I wouldn't have time to invite others...

I'm worried about that too, it happened with our engagement party. Both my & h2b's mum's were not impressed with the respective sides of the family! I am worried about numbers as its a friday wedding & people do have to travel quite far, but then I'd rather know than have ppl drop out. I say as long as h2b turns up & our closest friends & family r there everything else is just an extra, but I would b gutted if we only needed 3 tables 4 the breakfast! More chocolate fountain 4 me tho ;\) x

[quote]Yeah Im worried about that too!

We are only inviting or nearest and dearest to the ceremony/meal which is about 50 people. We haveny sent out our invites yet but we've listed 70 guest for evening invites. Problem is we are putting opened invitation up in each of our work places...........so Im not going to about numbers until they actually show up.
I have a bad feeling that I wont get many from my work and I dont really want to go round people asking them if they are coming or not and think my h2b is the same:roll: The real annoying thing is the four girls that I work with closely (ageing from 21 to 50) dont go out to anything. I feel myself already getting annoyed with them even though they havent told me no yet:roll:


Wow Miss July I could have wrote that!!!

I feel the same.....scared of being billy no mates..but I'm sure some will turn up, even if its just for the food ( well we are not feeding evening people so ha!!! )

So far we have had 8 decline out of 85 and also after a lot of problems I have asked my Sister not to attend (A long story!) so that is another 4 what with her husband and 2 kids. So thats 12 so far, had 60 confirmed so waiting on about 14 now..its worrying isnt it tho!

YES! I was also worried about this (and still am a bit).

We have had all our RSVPs back already and it was a minor disaster. We invited 92 people to both day and night. Our hotel has given us minimum quotas of 80 for day and 100 for evening, which we have to pay for whether we have that many or not.

15 declined our day invite, leaving 77 that are coming (so not too bad for the day).

But what REALLY upset me was the whopping 30 guests who declined our evening invite, leaving only 62 for the evening, when we have to pay for at least 100 people! I was completely gutted.

It did leave me feeling very betrayed, lonely, sad and pathetic to be honest. And now I'm going to have to send out more invites to try and make up the numbers. It's a (small) nightmare.

I was really down about this for a couple of days until H2B talked some sense into me. He reminded me that whether 2 or 200 people come, it will still be the best day of OUR lives and the only people whose presence matters are us at the end of the day! His kind and wise words have cheered me up so much, and made me realise that I shouldn't be worrying about how it "looks" to others if we don't have as many guests as we planned for. Screw them - we are there to get MARRIED, not just throw a popularity party!

You will have a fab day too no matter how many people come, so don't worry sweetie! x