am i wrong to want to do it again ???

Hey Girls just some advice needed.
I got married in August 2009 but instead of all good thoughts of my day all i feel is that i want to do it all again.
Firstly my dress was wrong, i just didn't feel good in it, i should of kept looking rather than take my sisters word for it .
Secondly i would make sure i had different people with me on the morning of my wedding, as my sister totally ruled the morning and was a proper misery .(think she may of been jealous !!! )
Thirdly my dj was a piece of crap.
I would just love to re-new my vows in the dress that makes me go ohhhhhhhh and look back on my photos and smile rather than hate myself in them.

The question is would people think i am crazy ????????

Hey Girls just some advice needed.
I got married in August 2009 but instead of all good thoughts of my day all i feel is that i want to do it all again.
Firstly my dress was wrong, i just didn't feel good in it, i should of kept looking rather than take my sisters word for it .
Secondly i would make sure i had different people with me on the morning of my wedding, as my sister totally ruled the morning and was a proper misery .(think she may of been jealous !!! )
Thirdly my dj was a piece of crap.
I would just love to re-new my vows in the dress that makes me go ohhhhhhhh and look back on my photos and smile rather than hate myself in them.

The question is would people think i am crazy ????????

It might be a bit soon to be renewing your vows! Yes I think people might think thats a little mad! (I dont mean that in a bad way!) maybe think about spending a couple of years planning and searching for the perfect dress, dj etc and do it for your 5 year anniversary.
After reading alot on these boards, it seems that there are always things that brides look back on and wish they could change about their wedding day.

does it matter what other people think if its what you want

After 6 months I think its a wee bit much to ask everyone to attend another wedding.

I agree its a bit soon and people will think it is odd, plus everyone always says something went wrong or wasnt what they expected so what is to say the second time round would be 100% perfect?

but if you have the money to even consider doing it all over again, what about buying the WOW factor dress (even if it is a sample or from ebay) but the style you really wanted and having a really uber special cherish the dress shoot...probably cheaper than a whole new wedding day and will give you that moment being glamourous and in the dress you want without having a second wedding/renewal so soon. You could get your hair and make-up done, have a bouquet and even if your BMs have their dresses still and are up for it have them involved too so you have some special pictures?

At the end of the day the wedding day is about you and partner making vows etc which you have done so it is sort of pointless doing that again, you could have a blessing though? Or do a photo shoot and then just have a big fat 1st anniversary party and have a lovely evening gown?

Agree with WeddingMonster. The photoshoot idea is a really good one.
Its a teeny bit materialistic to want another day just so you can wear a better dress / have a better dj etc... is that what was really important about your wedding day?

[Modified by: ~shell~ on March 04, 2010 10:16 PM]

Thanks for all your advice girls and i agree that a lovely gown for my first anniversary and have a party . I just look back at my pic's and look so fat and its so upsetting as i felt so uncomfortable all day in the dress. I just didn't feel like a bride should but i married the man i adore so your right the vow's meant more but just wish i had lost weight before then rather than do it now. But i am losing weight now and i will have that party and get a fab gown.

Thanks girls xx

You had all the things wrong with your wedding that I had wrong with mine.

I didn't like my dress, but my sister told me it was beautiful, and it is beautiful, I got the correct one from the shop so I go it. There was a dress in USA that I wanted, so much, even now I think about it, but I couldn't afford to go and get it. (Sad).

My DJ was so bad that he forgot my first dance song, and left an album of Madness on for 10 minutes while he had a fag, and he looked a total mess. (He was advised to me by my aunt).

It snowed the day before the wedding, so I didn't have some guests come.

But you know what, the best part, and most magical part was saying my vows, and walking out of the church with my husband. thats all I think about. If you think that now you are married, and have someone you love and trust, it doesn't matter.

I am doing a trash the dress photos, so getting some fun out of my dress

I think you should definitely do a trash the dress shoot! Enjoy your time again but just the two of you. Maybe have a renewal of your vows in a few years. xx

oooh, i know what you mean! my day was lovely, everything went very well, there were no dramas or upsets but i felt really deflated after - i know about post wedding blues etc... and its not like i hated my day at all but i just wished we had done it all differently.

before we even got engaged me and hubby would talk about getting married abroad with just our nearest and dearest. really quiet romantic ceremony and then a massive party when we got back home.

but when i got that ring on my finger i wanted the 'perfect' day and started planning a big UK wedding. i thought at the time it was what i wanted but had several moments of 'i wish we had just gone abroad' thoughout the planning...

anyway! we have been married 1 year in 23 days! as soon as the wedding was over we both said we wanted to do it again so agreed that for our 10 yr anniversary we would go away with our close family and renew our vows and just have a wicked holiday all together.

but im now thinking i would prefer that to be 5 yr anniversary!

it is not unusual to feel the way you do at all.

i think the cherish the dress shoot is a great idea and im actually doing one myself in the summer (it rained on our wedding day so i want some pretty sunny outsidey shots)!

Maybe you could go abroad on holiday and have a blessing? then you could have a new dress and photographer, invite a few friends along to stay in the hotel of get a villa and have a party or rent part of a resturant out and have a meal later in the evening? x x

I woud save up the money and have another honeymoon. I spend more on my honeymoon (2 weeks) than I did on my wedding (half a day) and was very pleased! I would do it all again, but maybe spend even more on the honeymoon and less on the wedding!

Thankyou so much ladies its nice to know i am not alone xx