Labour at best friends wedding??

Hello I have mentioned this replying to other threads, but I'd really like to know what you think.

Basically I'm pregnant, due on 24th September, and my husband is best man for our friends wedding on 25th Sep. We are meant to be on the top table and be quite an important part of this wedding.

Clearly it's quite possible that baby makes their appearance on that day, or I'm in labour. The wedding was planned before I got pregnant and I'm not sure what to do. Should my hubby not be best man? So there's no chance he lets them down on the day -and the groom can ask someone else in advance.

Or should we chance it? My hubby and the groom and extremly close and he says he wouldn't have any other best man.

We've talked about it to them, and they just make jokes about me giving birth in church etc. I'm trying to be realistic though!

What do you ladies think? I couldn't have planned getting pregnant around their wedding, and it's a bit worrying! Am I likely to even be there? xxx:\?

I'm not really sure what to reply but didn't want to read and run. If it's you're first then there's a big possibility that you could go over term.

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Could they maybe have 2 best men so if nothing has happened he can still be a big part of the wedding but if you are in labour then there is another person to still take the role

At least that way he can still be well involved and organise the stag do

Thanks for replying! The stag do is six weeks before, so that isn't a problem. Good idea about 2 best men though.
It is my first baby and my original due date was 28th sep, but it got changed at my scan to earlier. I would love to be there, but sods law doesn't like me, so I'm guessing not. x

If it's any help at all, I was 11 days late with my first baby and pretty much everyone I know went quite a long way past their due date on their first. Perhaps the little one will hang on and let you both be there for the wedding? I think you have to bear in mind though is how you'll feel in yourself if you haven't gone into labour by then. I was so fed up, uncomfortable and tired by the end, it was all I could do to get dressed, let alone get dressed up and be nice to people at a wedding! I think it's lovely you want to make such an effort for your friends. I think the 2 best men suggestion is a great idea. And, whatever happens, I think you'll definitely get a mention in the speech! Hope it all works out x

Just wanted to second the idea about two best men, just in case. I was two days early with my first one, so it could happen! Nearer the time as well maybe the midwife will be able to give you an idea of how imminent things are looking e.g. if the baby is engaged?

Hope that it all works out X

Hi
if he doesn't want 2 best men maybe one of the ushers could be prepared to step up. your hubby could either write a speech to be read out or record it on video or cd so that it could be played. Hopefully it won't be needed but if you are in labour then there is a back up plan and he could be included in the day??
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if the couple gettin married know your pregnant and don't seem to be concerned about when you'll go into labour then don't worry about it. i'm sure they probably are talkin together about your situation and sortin out alternitives (sp) if ur hubby ends up not being there.

another thing, many people say you'll probably go over term with your 1st. doesn't always happen, i was 11 days eearly with my little one. she couldn't wait any longer lol

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If you've voiced you concerns about it there's not a lot you can do. Baby will come when it's ready and surely they understand that. Don't stress yourself out worrying about it.

Maybe get your hubby to have another word and suggest having a backup again.....

I feel your pain! My oldest friend gets married on Oct 23rd, my EDD is Oct 25th. As long as they are aware of the situation I'm sure it'll be fine. The 2 best men idea is a very good one! I haven't told my friend yet, I'm hoping the idea of being a surrogate aunty will soften the blow of me maybe not making to their wedding...