July Wedding - Invite Dilemma?!?!?!?

Hi all,

We are getting married on the 10th July 2010. I bought my invites ages ago as found the perfect ones. I have also had my guest list written out for a whille now. My maid of honour offered to write all the invites as she can so fancy writing so thought that was brilliant. As I had the invites printed, I asked her what date to put on it for the RSVP's (she got married a few years ago so knows the in's and out's of planning one). She reccommended end of April as will expect to still be chasing them into may and can confirm numbers etc end of may start of june. So RSVP by end of april is what I had printed. After this, it was then announced she was pregnant and due end of april which is fantastic news though it has caused a few issues with such things as dresses but also the invites. I am a organised freak and expected to have the invites sent out beginning of march as its a july wedding I have read lots of people reccommend this. Also we did not send out 'Save the Date' cards as could not afford the extra cost and thought we will send the invites out early enough so there was no need for them. I gave the invited and guest list to my maid of honour about 6wks ago but she has decided she is too busy to write them at the moment and will start writing them when she goes on maternity leave end of March. Therefore, assuming all invites will be written in a few days they will not be going out till about the 1st week in April and the RSVP is end of April!! I feel everything I had set out in my head with regards to the invites has gone to pot! My other bridesmaids have suggested to ask for the invites back and start writing them ourselves as it is leaving it too late but I do not want to upset anyone as the maid of honour is also H2B sister!?!?
This is my dilemma - any advice, opinions, ideas will help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks ladies.xxx

I'm sure she wouldn't take offence if you ask for them back to write them yourselves. Just say that you know she is very busy and you really want the invites out as soon as possible to give people enough time to RSVP. I wrote my own invites. I'm not a very fancy writer but wrote them with my best handwriting and they looked fine. x

I have spoke to her with regards to understanding she is very busy with the new arrival etc but she is addiment she still wants to write them just like being addiment about still being a bridesmaid! She said sending the invites out beginning of April is fine and having a few weeks to RSVP is also fine and says I have nothing to worry about. Close family and friends have been asking when they should expect to receive an invite when I tell them most say seems a little late! And reading July brides on here have sent there invites weeks ago makes me panic!! Stress that we could really do with out!!

I don't think she will take offense. (but then i dont know her personality).

We were meant to send out our the beginning of March. In January I asked my MIL2B to get her families address so I could write them. She said fi i gave her the invites she would send them. .... lets just say my half have recieved theirs and his side havent been written yet. the rsvp is the 3rd May (so about the same timing as yours) ekkk,,,,

I wouldn't worry too much. :\) Even after your RSVP date, you still have over two months to chase up the ones who haven't yet got round to replying.

I'm getting married on 10th July too and my RSVP date is 10th May. I sent the invitations two weeks ago.

If you think you can wait to send them out in April, I'd say just go with it but let her know that as you're already a bit worried that if they're not done by 5th April (or something?!) then you plan to do it yourself for peace of mind. I also think a month is plenty of time to get back to you - they can either come or not...
I'm getting married on 30th and haven't sent invites out - not even got them printed yet!!! Am planning on getting themout mid - end of April and RSVPs end of May/ early June.
Don't worry hon, it will be fine!! x

i sent mine out over the last week and have already started getting replies. I put my rsvp as end of may though as we dont have to confirm numbers until the week before. I wouldn't worry. Maybe suggest to her you'd be grateful if she does say 10 a night when she's relaxed and send them out as their done. once she gets into it she might just think 'to hell with it ill do them all' lol xxx

I am getting married on 10th July and havent sent mine yet!! I am not intending on sending them until early-mid April and my RSVP is 21st May - giving me a couple of weeks to chase up and then i can let the venue know numbers. Hope i am not cutting it to fine!!!!

xxx

YEah, I'm the same - marrying July 9, h2b is (supposed) to be designing the invitations but is really stressed with work stuff at the mo. Have pretty much got a clear idea of who is definately coming anyway, so not stressing too much (yet), but ideally want them out mid April and rsvps in by end of May.

Horrible having to rely on other people at times tho.
x

Thanks to all of you for your replies - they have put me at ease! x

Just to update you all on my last post on here..... i had my first RSVP today from my side of the family. I just HAD to text my MIL2B and tell her- as she STILL hasnt sent out invites to her side of the family! EVIL!

my wedding is 3rd july and still waiting for my sister to print inserts for invites i made weeks ago, strting to panic a bit now as want them sent by end of month,xx

Why do some people feel the need to make things a head stress! I have spoken to her again with regards to the invites she has now informed me she is not going on maternity leave till 2nd of April! So the invites should be going out mid April which mean people have 2 to 3 weeks before the RSVP date!! I asked her why she told me to put the end of April as the RSVP date and she said dhe didn't think! Some people have even asked me if the wedding is still going ahead as no invites have been sent!! Shocking!! Hopefully we'll get them out before the wedding and we may be lucky to have a few guests!
The next issue is her bridemaids dress as she is causing issues with that too but thats another topic!! Dont you just feel that sometimes people to it on purpose just to see you go mad!!
Its not my fault she got pregnant and didn't realise this would cause a few issues with regards to arranging the wedding!

If you're worried about it...then get them back and write them yourself.

I'm also having a July wedding. We sent our invites out at the end of January. A lot of people book summer holidays early so the earlier people know about peak time events the better really.

We're still chasing a few RSVPs on h2bs side...but then we have had a family bereavement which probably did affect the RSVPs. We're definately wanting to get the stragglers chased by the end of this weekend...as we need to know the final numbers for the reception venue table arrangements, favours etc etc

I'm glad we sent ours out earlier rather than later.

We didn't put RSVP cards in with our invites as we wanted people to be able to respond in whatever way they felt easiest...phone, email, post etc.

Still some people replied with acceptance cards which they had bought themselves...which we just weren't expecting...and which was a little embarrassing.