How do I reply to this one?Guest assumed full invite...

Having sent the invites, a friend( although not as close as we were in secondary school) who I haven't seen in 2 years sent me a message that she got the evening invite and expected to be invited to the whole thing. I did mention in her invite that she is more than welcome to come to the church as it's all local to us but the sit down meal is predominantly family and best friends.

What shall I say in response, I don't want to fall out completely just want to put my point across tactfully.

What a strange message for her to send! Be honest and tell her the meal is for family and a few friends, I don't think there's anymore you can do... You haven't seen her for two years, what's the worst that could happen!? I can't get over the cheek of it - would you ever dream of sending someone a msg like this? Weddings do make people go a bit strange!

I agree with Kat hun.
Just tell her that it close memebrs of family and friends only to the day time, and again, I agree, it's very cheeky:o

Like Kat said, whats the worst that can happen??? If she is that bugged by it decides not to come to the evening do then in my opinion she isn't a true friend after all.

I wouldn't worry about it chick, just tell her the truth.

Nicki xx

maybe she sees herself as a close friend? even though to you she doesnt seem to be.... so maybe just say its family only ( if you can get away without mentioning friends and she doesnt know any of the friends that are going), because she may argue that she feels she is a close friend if she knows a few friends are going. It is cheeky, she should be greatful she's got an evening invite especially as you haven't seen eachother for two years!!!

Thanks girls, yes I will mention family-because that's the truth h2bs family's huge!

I began to drift from her because of her cheek, she's the type to feel coming to the church (which is 10min from her) even though she's welcome, will be a hassle as it'd ruin her outfit for the eve.

stick to your guns! you should have the ppl there u want x

Agreed.

I've been getting this and my invites haven't even been sent! I don't get how people can be really off with you for not inviting them to be fed!

Just remember for every one guest who doesn't appreciate to even be considered to be invited to any part of your wedding (and to me the ceremony is the most important part) there are a whole lot of other guests who do appreciate it. x

[Modified by: cosmopolitana on March 13, 2010 03:03 PM]

I agree with everyone else - stick to your guns, could you say to her that you would have loved for her to be there but budget/space restrictions mean that you cannot have extra guests?

I'm afraid this isn't all that uncommon. A friend of mine is miffed with me for not inviting her to my hen do! She keeps asking people if they're going - it's like she can't believe I have other friends I think. She even asked H2B's ex-wife if she was coming!! Even if I expected to be invited to something I wouldn't go around saying it to people! Nothing surprises me anymore when it comes to people's attitude to weddings!

I have the same problem! One of my friends (who is coming to the full day) has a husband, who I knew briefly whilst I was at uni (he used to come up to visit), but I haven't really seen in years. I have invited him to the evening do (which she knew and agreed to previously), purely to stop any bad feeling, but then I got an email from her saying she had spoken to him, he was really dissapointed because he expected! to come, and he wanted me to squeeze him in, so could we do it please??!!

Still smarting!!!!

Kenty I would just say to her, as the others have said, that you just need to be really clear - that is just a few key people coming, and you hope she understands. leave it at that - hopefully she will then too !! xxx

agree with everyone else here hun stick to your guns