KittyFiennes wrote (see post):
How about the comments you get when you're getting married (gasp) a second or even third time? Or the lack of comments even... *crickets* It can be more than a little disheartening. I think people say even more rude things when it's a second or third marriage ("You're actually having a wedding?") or they just as cruelly don't take it seriously and don't want to talk about it with you at all.
I actually think the comments people make about babies in relation to a marriage announcement are the most appalling:
"I'm getting married."
"Oh, that's nice. Will you guys be having children then?"
Erm, excuse me, none of your business and not even a related topic!!
I had a (male!) coworker who just wouldn't leave it alone even when I made it clear I did NOT want to talk about it. These comments were especially hurtful in that I can't have children
I've found (so far) that everyone we've told is happy for us - no comments (yet!) about it being second time for us both.
But the kids thing..... omg yes. I get so sick of dealing with other people's questions, assumptions and opinions about why I'm childless