I would really like to ask SIL2B to be a witness for us but we already have two witnesses. If you have more than two what do they all do because I thought you just needed two to sign your register? Sorry if thats a silly question!
I'm having two friends, one male and one female who were the ones who introduced me to my h2b. Seemed the natural choice. I think as with everything else wedding related you can have whatever you want! Who made all these silly rules up anyway? I'm all for rule breaking!!! Who's with me?
To answer Watson2b's question, you HAVE to have two witnesses for it to be legal on the day but there is room in the register for up to four to sign. We are currently having three, my brother, H2B's chief usher (the really close friend he didn't ask to be best man), and H2B's sister. H2B's sister gets terribly self-conscious in public and isn't sure she wants to do it, so the registrar is going to check with her on the day. If she doesn't want to do it, it won't be a problem because we will still have our two witnesses to make things legal. Our registrar does something similar for couples who want a witness who is under 18 (one of the couples' child or godchild usually). They have two adult witnesses for the legalities but the younger 'witness' is also called up to sign the register.
As for tradition, yes, I suspect the oldest tradition would be the two fathers as witnesses because they would have been the legal heads of families and thus the only ones qualified to stand as formal witnesses. But, in fact, the entire congregation acts as witness to the marriage; the two who sign the register are just representitives. (Sorry, had a long chat with our lovely registrar about all this. I find it fascinating.)
We are having our CBM and best man but I know a lot of people who had the two mum's - never seen a dad do it but you could have whoever you want. I am sure your dad will understand if you say you want a friend to do it so they are involved. He gets to walk you down the aisle after all!
We're having my best friend and his best friend, who are best man and bridesmaid. I've never heard of the dad being a witness, but I like the idea of having both the mums- great way to get them involved!
We are having my son and my hubby-to-be's son as they don't have as big a part to play in the ceremony as our daughter's do, who are both bridesmaids. However, last time I got married I had the Best Man and Chief Bridesmaid. x
We are going to ask our mum's to do it, as we felt it was a nice way to involve them. My dad gets to walk me down the aisle, his dad got to walk his sister down the aisle, but the mums (who do so much to help before the day) always seem to be left out on the day.
I've never heard of dads doing it either, but then again I'd never heard of mums doing it until I looked it up. But it is your day, you should do what you want. Don't pick your dad just because he is expecting it, pick who you want!