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LadyFord Bridezilla
09/03/2012 at 12:14
Oh thank god for YAYW to have a good rant about your wedding when you can't rant on your FB when it basically involves EVERYONE you know!

Now, I may be having a bit of a Bridezilla moment but please bear with me... We sent out our Wedding Invitations mid Feb, I included with them a lovely reply card and even a stamped addressed envelope so all my guests had to do was write their name on the card, say if they're going or not, say if they have a dietary requirement and then pick a cool song to be played

Now, I didn't exactly expect everyone to send them back the same day they got them however our RSVP date has been and gone by over a week and over 50 people haven't bothered replying! I mean honestly, how much easier do I want to make it! Our venue are being dicks and are asking for confirmed numbers by tomorrow (yeah, that's going to happen) and I still have DAY guests that haven't confirmed!!! GAAHHHHH!!!

Anyone else feel the same? Anyone else in the same boat? Or am I completely, utterly and totally overreacting?!?!?!?

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BabsMelon Bridezilla
09/03/2012 at 12:22
We're getting married in July sent ours out 3 weeks ago, deadline is 30th April. Only had 3 people respond, 2 of which we already knew were coming! I think people are just lazy. Get on the phone and ring them! x
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LadyFord Bridezilla
09/03/2012 at 12:49
Oh I have! About a week ago I started sending out friendly texts and a friendly FB status saying my venue needed numbers early so could people please RSVP... we got an influx of 4 more!!! Xxx.

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mrslane2b Bridezilla
09/03/2012 at 13:24
How frustrating! I'd feel the same - the least they could do is reply esp as you have gone to south effort.

Sorry about that. What can I say but people are so disappointing sometimes!

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AutumnBride2012 Bridezilla
09/03/2012 at 14:59
Aw hun thats awful. I don't think people appreciate how much time/effort&money the couple spends on them!
I'm afraid I can't offer any advice as you havent got any time to put a plan into action but wanted to share my sympathy!
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LadyFord Bridezilla
09/03/2012 at 15:30
Aww, thank you girls! I wasn't expecting a solution, it's just nice to know I'm not being a total bitch!

Agreed, people should appreciate the effort us lovely Brides put into making sure they have fun on OUR day too

Xxx.

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nats2013 Bridezilla
09/03/2012 at 15:54
sorry ladies but i think 3 weeks isnt very long to expect replies back given that half of that time is spent in ether direction in the post!

if you want the numbers quickly send them out earlier. what if people are away, what if they have to arrange travel or accommodation or baby sitters..... there's so much more going on in other people's lives than just your weddings. i will be sending mine with 3 months to reply and thats not my caterers need for numbers thats so i can start sending the second batch of invites, they will actually have 8 months to get their act together!

im not being nasty but life gets in the way sometimes. all we had to do last year with the wedding invite we got was to send an email but before then we had to sort out somewhere for our dog to stay, flights and then i wanted the man to reply as it was his family getting married so yeah, that email probably took us a month to get out

have some patience

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LadyFord Bridezilla
09/03/2012 at 16:05
Well Nats, considering everyone had a save the date a year before our wedding they really should have already thought of these things... But thanks for your input.

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flossycat100 Bridezilla
10/03/2012 at 10:16
I sent out Save the dates roughly a year before our wedding. I still left a period of 3 months between sending the invites and the RSVP date. It took a while for all our guests to RSVP, but RSVP they did.

I'm not sure it was entirely appropriate to shoot nats2013 down like you just did, when she was only being practical. Like she said, she wasn't saying it to be nasty.

I hope your guests get themselves sorted and find the manners to respond- maybe another polite nudge would do the trick?

cm_pr Bridezilla
10/03/2012 at 10:43
I don't think sparkle_charlie was shooting anyone down! It must be stressful for her as the venue wants numbers tomorrow, and she can't exactly turn back time and send them out any earlier.

I sent out my invites in January, I have a feeling I'll have to do a bit more nagging in order to get people to RSVP by April. But I'm good at nagging
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LadyFord Bridezilla
11/03/2012 at 04:32
Thanks cm-pr

No, I didn't mean to shoot anyone down but I didn't feel nats had the facts fully (as I didn't put when I sent the save the dates out originally.)

I was going to send out our invitations 6 months beforehand originally with 3 months to RSVP and another 1 month to chase after the RSVP date but my busy life seemed to get in the way of that! (As it does at times with a 2 and a half year old, 7 month old and a 32 year old to look after ) had our meeting with the venue yesterday and I talked him down to needing full and confirmed figures a month before hand which gives me another 2 months... Phew! think he was just trying his luck. Pesky pesky!

P.S. Nat, none of our guests need to book flights or arrange accommodation as they are all local to our venue... Again something you weren't aware of... But it does mean they don't need a month to decide whether or not to come to our wedding especially as they had a save the date a year ago, just a thought ladies! End of the day, no ones in the right, no ones in the wrong, I just wanted a bit of bridal support

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Gatsby_Wedding Bridezilla
12/03/2012 at 18:35
Well done for getting an extension with the venue. Hopefully you have a rough idea of who will be there or not anyway so you can give them rough numbers. Rather annoyingly the people I haven't had RSVP's from are the same people as my "not sure whether they'll be able to make it or not" list! Most people don't think about those things until they've planned a wedding themselves though and, to be fair, they still have 2 weeks until the RSVP date so they might come through!
LadyFord Bridezilla
15/03/2012 at 03:22
Thanks Gatsby! I was pretty pleased with myself so I'm a lot more chilled about RSVPs now the venue aren't on my case.

I'm the same! The people that haven't RSVPd are the ones I'm not 100% sure will come! If people don't come back to me I'm just going to assume they are coming and tell the venue, as we're not having an evening buffet it doesn't matter too much really

I'm sure you will start getting like 10 RSVPs through a day soon, it's now 3 weeks since our RSVP deadline and we have a ton through yesterday you're right, people don't think about these things, I've had people tell me they've lost their invite etc so can't send the card back!!! Bunch of bloody numpty's! Ha ha ha ha.

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RowenaFW Bridezilla
27/03/2012 at 09:44
We sent our invites out with 6 weeks to RSVP and over a quarter of our guests hadn't replied by our date despite spending a few days before contacting them all. We still have 6 who haven't officially RSVPed at all. All ours had to do was tick coming or not, tick meat or alcohol if they wanted them.

Having said that, I wouldn't take time off work on the basis of a save the date because it is expressly NOT an invitation. On the other hand, if I were unable to RSVP in time because of getting a babysitter/time of work I would contact the couple to explain the situation and ask when they needed the numbers for. There's no excuse really.

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LadyFord Bridezilla
27/03/2012 at 10:42
Well exactly Rowena, I now have all day invites and still lacking in about 10 evening ones. I'm just laughing about it now! The closer our date gets the less I'm stressing about things

How have your RSVPs gone?

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nats2013 Bridezilla
27/03/2012 at 11:33
hi, just wanted to say i didnt feel shot down. a lot of people say the same as you in your first post so thought the many people who havent sent invites yet and read this might find it useful to put it all into perspective. sorry i know you cant turn back the clock and do anything differently but im glad its all coming together

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tinainwid Bridezilla
27/03/2012 at 12:47
I would ring, dont bother to text at this late date, the venue need the numbers so its important.. Good luck!
LadyFord Bridezilla
29/03/2012 at 11:21
Thanks girls! I still have a few people left and tbh I'm just going to tell my venue that they're showing up and if they don't they don't, can't really chase them myself as they're H2Bs sisters close friends (who he has always gotten on with and wanted at the reception) and I don't have any numbers for them so I'll just leave it now the important people have now all let us know which is good! Xxx.

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