Second Time Around

third wedding anyone????

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JLhairandmakeup Wedding addict

03/03/2011 at 07:39

I am in the process of arranging my wedding at the minute, and this is third time round for me!
first marriage, was too young and didnt last
second marriage I married someone who turned out to be mad as a box of frogs
...can anyone see the problem I am having yet? I feel I need to justify my wedding, im worried that people are not going to take it seriously. My other half wants the big white wedding in a church, top hat and tails etc ( i think i have a bit of a groomzilla tbh!) this is his first wedding and wants to go the whole hog...me I want to marry him, i love him so much and in my heart of hearts I want the "big day" as well but I just feel that its inappropraite with wedding number three!!
Help!!!!!!

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MrsBarrowman Bridezilla

03/03/2011 at 11:39

My dad is on wedding number 4...he went all out for his and it was a great day.
There was no feeling of it being anything different from a normal wedding.
The only thing is, I made the mistake of when we announced our engagement apparently I said 3 times to my dad. Well you only get married once!...My husband was giving me a few kicks under the table and I had no idea why!

You have made mistakes in the past, have the day you and h2b want and be happy!

Being married is way better than it looks in Corrie & Eastenders!

Steampunkbride Bridezilla

03/03/2011 at 14:38

Ditto, it's horrible having to explain why the previous ones have failed, like you, first was too young, second was a cheat and a coke head, third..? Well, third time lucky they say and I hope so as he is the father of my little one. But it was horrible when a friend of mine was planning her wedding a few years ago and turned to me and said "unlike you, I'm only planning on doing this once." Fume!

I didn't grow up expecting to have a lot of weddings and this one is bigger than the previous ones combined (bigger guest list, bigger budget etc).
But my family are behind this one, there's been no rolling of eyes of tutting just excitement. But I know what you mean about having to justify it, "but this IS the one this time..."

I just feel lucky enough that someone still wnats to take a chance and marry me.

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MrsMack2Be Bridezilla

05/03/2011 at 05:51

I don't think it makes any difference how many times you've been married before! You still deserve to have a lovely day! So go all out I say! It's obviously important to your H2B as well so I dont think you should only go halves on it!!!!

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pinklady62 New bride 2 be

08/03/2011 at 14:39

hi, yes I know what you mean. This is going to be my 3rd time too. I married at 18, too young then again at 23 didnt last then was with someone for 20 years and he had an affair with my best friend. Luckily for me we werent married. So now I feel this is third time lucky for me. My H2B is lovely and I love him so much and like you,I just know its right. Although I too feel that I;m not being taken seriously by my family. But hey ho.....I;m happy and those that matter to me are too. Im just at the early stages of planning the wedding, just a small one but it will mean just as much. If its meant to be...it will be xx

bellington Bridezilla

20/04/2011 at 14:33

Its our 3rd time, but our twist in the tail, is its going to be the second time to each other!!! Very long story.

Married the love of my life, on August 23rd 2012

Steampunkbride Bridezilla

20/04/2011 at 18:00

An interesting story though, bellington. Care to share...? Congratulations to you both, are you having some of the same things as last time, first dance etc, or making it a whole new day?
Excuse my nosiness and dumb questions...

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bellington Bridezilla

26/04/2011 at 11:29

Steampunkbride, if you look on page 2, in this section, 2nd time to the same man , there is some about it there. I wouldnt be without him now.

This wedding is going to be tiny, just family, and close friends, and our two youngest daughters as bridesmaids, and there 18 and 19 yrs old. Most probably a regiester office, i keep changing my mind. Just want to get every thing together, then we will decide.

My first wedding was way back in 1980, i was 17, he was a year older, in a church, white dress, etc, we thought we knew every thing, we bought our own house, and it lasted 14 months, we were so wrong, and both fiery together, so we called it aday.

This time to my h2b will be it.

Married the love of my life, on August 23rd 2012

FeelingYoung19144 Bridezilla

26/04/2011 at 14:56

What has it got to do with anyone how many times you have been married.

I am sure you did not think or decide that you were going to get married more than once.

'To try and beat Liz Taylors record'

I believe that you do not know a person until you live with them thats when the rose tinted glasses come off.

Enjoy your day as if it is the First time around, ignore any remarks if they are made.

WeeMissMcG New bride 2 be

26/04/2011 at 19:21

I actually love this, my mum is planning her 3rd & I am really xcited for her (she has promised not steal my thunder).
My grans & papa r pulling faces & my much younger brothers from her 2nd marriage r making jokes. I dont get it, we're a long time dead, grab happiness with both hands and scream it from the roof tops, u want to have a huge day go for it! x

WasABride2011 Bridezilla

01/05/2011 at 07:38

I just got married for the 3rd time on 24th April and it was the best wedding yet lol I was so much more relaxed this time and knew exactly what I wanted. I have to say my dress was the niecest of them all lol x My husband hasn't been married before but he doesn't care that I have. he says 3rd time lucky this time, and I'm so much happier than I ever was before.
My first husband I married at 21, and was an arsehole. My parents hated him, and so I was on a mission to rebel. My second husband was a control freak and a bully and we didn't even make 2 years before I bolted.
I met Chris, my new husband 2 weeks after I told the second that I wanted a divorce when he sold me a car. We fancied each other straight away and the rest is history

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tinainwid

26/03/2012 at 12:54

Third time for me too.
I married just after my 18th birthday, so far to young to know what I was doing, stuck with it for 12 years even though i knew after the wedding day i,d made a huge mistake.
Wedding 2 met and married him within 3 months.. thought he was the one until we married and he showed his true colours on our honeymoon.. total fruitcake another wasted 10 miserable years there.
wedding 3 in october 2012.. This time I,ve taken my time and know him inside out.. I love him very much and cant wait to say "I Do" this time I know its for keeps and my mum says the same, this time it feels like a real wedding and I couldnt agree more.
So dont be embarrased, hold your head up high, and have your wedding to your man just how youve always wanted it.

Kchristie3 Bridezilla

31/03/2012 at 17:02

This will be my 2nd time and I know this is for keeps . I married my first husband at 24 after been with him since I was 21 and very immature . I certainly wouldn't ever marry again unless we got on 100% and I happy to say after 3 years of been together we ave never argued or even raised our voices to each other !

bellington Bridezilla

02/04/2012 at 14:10

I am more excited this time. Its like i am a teenager again but in a older body,

H2b is being so good, bless him. x

Married the love of my life, on August 23rd 2012

TracyStroud New bride 2 be

03/04/2012 at 02:41

I am divorced and getting married again on October 6th. I wanted to marry in church but the local c of e church vicar still hasnt made her decission if we can marry in her church ( 9 weeks weve waited) so tried our local United Reformed Church.
They were not judgemental at all they said yes to marrying us at the initial meeting we have been asked to go to marriage preparation classes its a small price to pay to get teh church wedding i want.
Dont think of this as your third wedding just think of it as your LAST one the one that will work out. I hope this helps more than anything enjoy your day !

pinkymarie63 New bride 2 be

03/04/2012 at 09:50

I Know how you feel, and yes, you do feel sometimes the need to justify our past mistakes. 1st too young at 19, second lasted 18 years.....of misery. I have now been with my Fianc???? for 6 years, and he and I are not perect...no one is...But I have never been so happy as I am now, and I feel that at long last I am living a wonderful life. Its the third marriage for both of us, but I think 6 years of happiness already, just about says it all!!
LouLou x

MrsA2B!

12/10/2012 at 20:52

OMG I am so glad I found this thread! It's third time lucky for me!!!!! and I am having issues at the moment with it..... I originally got married at 20 after falling pregnant with my daughter (not planned) and our parents pushing us into a shot gun wedding and going along with it as it was the 'right' thing to do. We had been together since 15 and after we married everything changed and I left 4 months after much to the disgust of my family! They came round after a few months. I met my second husband and was so desperate to be love that I now realise for our whole marriage I bought his love and he bled me dry we had two daughters together and then he had an affair with someone from work and I forgave him and then a month after I took us on a £5k holiday to the dominican he left me again. That was two years ago....I was single for about 4 months and then bumped into my now partner who I knew when I was about 8 and over the next month or so we went out on a few dates etc and I am completely in love with the guy!!! I am totally myself he is so loving towards me and is everything I have ever wanted from a relationship. I am currently waiting for my absolute and he has asked me to marry him but I will not wear a ring until my divorce is finialised. We have already set a date but I am scared what people will think I've already kind of dropped it into conversation with my sister in law and mum and they were not good outcomes....sister in law thinks we should go away to get married and mum said dont do it again maybe your just not meant to be married!!!! H2B says sod everyone I may have been married before but I've never been married to him before!! (He's never been married before) xx

KK12

01/11/2012 at 11:17

I can really identify with this thread and the posters on it as I am eek, planning my 4th (and very much final!) wedding. Of course, nobody goes into life and a marriage thinking oh yes, I will never be married again but things happen.

My 3rd marriage was a complete mistake, the warning signs were all there but I took no notice. He had not been married before but for his sake, I decided to go ahead with the big wedding in this country (I wanted to get married abroad) and it was a circus and I hated it.

It is up to you both as to what kind of day you BOTH want, don't be railroaded into what other people think you should do!

This time round, I am not bothered so much as to what people think as it is what we want. He is just waiting for his absolute to come through so he has been married before and he says the past doesn't matter to him and that I have been married 3 times, what matters is the present and the future.

It is likely that we will sneak off abroad to get married and have a party when we get back to celebrate. x

MrsA2B!

02/11/2012 at 10:36

Hi KK12 that is deffo true the present and future is what is important. I would have liked to go abroad and get married but as my partner hasnt been married before and he says none of his family will go we have decided to have a small wedding here x

KK12

05/11/2012 at 14:26

Hi MrsA2b... we are looking at several options but the favourite is definitely to have a very small and intimate wedding and then a party when we are married. If people don't agree with things then that is their issue and not yours.Your happiness and that of your partner's should come first. I am great mates with my first husband as it happens and we have always looked out for each other which is lovely but there is no romantic notions between us. It would have been lovely to stay married to him but it wasn't meant to be. x

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