Married the love of my life, on August 23rd 2012
OMG I am so glad I found this thread! It's third time lucky for me!!!!! and I am having issues at the moment with it..... I originally got married at 20 after falling pregnant with my daughter (not planned) and our parents pushing us into a shot gun wedding and going along with it as it was the 'right' thing to do. We had been together since 15 and after we married everything changed and I left 4 months after much to the disgust of my family! They came round after a few months. I met my second husband and was so desperate to be love that I now realise for our whole marriage I bought his love and he bled me dry we had two daughters together and then he had an affair with someone from work and I forgave him and then a month after I took us on a £5k holiday to the dominican he left me again. That was two years ago....I was single for about 4 months and then bumped into my now partner who I knew when I was about 8 and over the next month or so we went out on a few dates etc and I am completely in love with the guy!!! I am totally myself he is so loving towards me and is everything I have ever wanted from a relationship. I am currently waiting for my absolute and he has asked me to marry him but I will not wear a ring until my divorce is finialised. We have already set a date but I am scared what people will think I've already kind of dropped it into conversation with my sister in law and mum and they were not good outcomes....sister in law thinks we should go away to get married and mum said dont do it again maybe your just not meant to be married!!!! H2B says sod everyone I may have been married before but I've never been married to him before!! (He's never been married before) xx
I can really identify with this thread and the posters on it as I am eek, planning my 4th (and very much final!) wedding. Of course, nobody goes into life and a marriage thinking oh yes, I will never be married again but things happen.
My 3rd marriage was a complete mistake, the warning signs were all there but I took no notice. He had not been married before but for his sake, I decided to go ahead with the big wedding in this country (I wanted to get married abroad) and it was a circus and I hated it.
It is up to you both as to what kind of day you BOTH want, don't be railroaded into what other people think you should do!
This time round, I am not bothered so much as to what people think as it is what we want. He is just waiting for his absolute to come through so he has been married before and he says the past doesn't matter to him and that I have been married 3 times, what matters is the present and the future.
It is likely that we will sneak off abroad to get married and have a party when we get back to celebrate. x
Hi KK12 that is deffo true the present and future is what is important. I would have liked to go abroad and get married but as my partner hasnt been married before and he says none of his family will go we have decided to have a small wedding here x
Hi MrsA2b... we are looking at several options but the favourite is definitely to have a very small and intimate wedding and then a party when we are married. If people don't agree with things then that is their issue and not yours.Your happiness and that of your partner's should come first. I am great mates with my first husband as it happens and we have always looked out for each other which is lovely but there is no romantic notions between us. It would have been lovely to stay married to him but it wasn't meant to be. x