I'm feeling a bit fed up today and just wondered if any brides/brides to be could give me some advice.
We are getting married abroad- Santorini June 2017. I am really excited as it's my dream wedding destination but I have always known that it's my dream and not necessarily that of my family or guests. As such I knew front the start that getting married abroad could mean some people wouldn't necessarily attend for varying reasons. For this reason we are having a big party when we get back home. At the start of the year I made save the dates to try give people as much notice as possible and get a rough idea of potential numbers. Based on responses we paid deposit for venue and confirmed booking. At this point there were about 45 people coming- a few of which are my hubby's best friends and anticipated to be part of bridal party. As the year has gone on more and more people have dropped out. My partner was really disappointed as this includes 3 of his best friends. Finances have been main reason which my partner has struggled with as most are fairly comfortable finance wise (or so appear). It really caused him upset initially and did make us question wedding abroad as we had always assumed drop outs, just not from our best friends. He's okay with this now but took a while.
Roll on to now and about 20 people have reserved accommodation. To save money most guests (ourselves inc) have forgone travel agent and booked with hotels direct or booking.com and will be getting flights from easyjet when released sept/Oct. But a few of my closet friends and family haven't booked anything. I researched loads of hotels and made a website showing prices and hotel info etc and majority of these are now fully booked. I've tried encouraging friends to just reserve something even if later cancel (alot are free cancellation with no deposit to pay yet) but nothing. I'm starting to think they won't be coming but don't want to hurt my feelings. I'm also worried that those who have reserved accommodation don't yet have flights so could potentially be more drop outs to come.
Obviously it's disappointing that people can't come who we thought were nailed on but I'm actually okay with that. What is stressing me out is that we've booked a reception venue which has a minimum of 35 people- you can have less than that but still have to pay equivalent of food for 35. We are now worried that the hall we have chosen will look empty and we will be paying over the odds as might only be 22 of us at this rate. But if we cancel we lose deposit and have stress of trying to find a new venue.. Most of which are booked upto 2 yr in advance. I'm stressed and I know its majorly stressing my partner out who is now saying he wishes we had just gone somewhere in carribean or similar with parents instead :-( x