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Bridezilla

So, I've been reading all of your planning threads, and i thought id have a go at my own. I like the idea of having something to look back on after the 'event' and laugh at how utterly clueless i am. 

Anyway...

Our Story

Me and M have been together for nearly 9 years now. When we met, I was not in the least bit interested in getting into anything as i had only just gotten out of a long term (disastrous) relationship. My friend had recently moved in with me and we were inseparable. Anyway, M is a work colleague of this friend and we met on a works night out that i had gatecrashed. M and I didn't really talk that night, but my friend did mention that he'd asked about me. I thought no more of it, but after a couple more get togethers (where we did speak) and some rather brutal badgering from my friend, i was persuaded to go on a date with him. I wont tell the whole story of that date, but it ended in a food fight at 4am after a dance off and public vomiting. I had SUCH a laugh. 

So that was that, the 3 of us then became inseparable. He moved in, and then after a while she met someone and moved out.

And here we are 9 years, 2 house moves and a dog later...

So there you have Groom and Bridesmaid No 1 (in no particular order) 

Bridezilla

The Proposal

M & I have not once discussed marriage in the 8 years of us being together. It wasn't a conscious decision to not talk about it, it just never came up! I'm not the type to have their entire wedding saved on pinterest within 30 minutes of "can i buy you a drink?" 

Looking back, i do think its a bit weird now that i didn't even think about it. We'd go to wedding after wedding of family and friends and people would always ask when we were making it official but id just brush it off. I think i always assumed it would happen, i just wasn't too bothered when.

During our 8 years together we have holidayed in a lot of places, with the south of France being very much a favourite. We've been twice before staying in both Nice and Cannes, each time visiting Monte Carlo at least once. Casino Square is my favourite place. On our first visit to Monte Carlo we went to the Casino, played on the bandits, had a drink on the patio, and on the way out M placed €50 on black, and came out with a €100 note. We then walked over to the café overlooking the roundabout and shared an ice cream whilst people watching. It was the perfect day and we’ve often spoken about it since.

This June we went back again. We got the train from Nice to Monaco, walked along the harbour looking at all the yachts, through the tunnel, and up the hill to casino square. We walked round a little, through the Japanese Garden and up to the fountain looking over the whole of the square. M suggested we get a selfie (which should have set alarm bells ringing then as he hates photos, especially selfies!) He decided he didn’t want a selfie and said he was going to ask the couple next to us to take it, which he did. So there I am, stood smiling for the camera wondering why it was taking them so long to take the photo. Eventually I looked to M who had been stood next to me, and there he was, down on one knee and proudly showing me a small black jewellery box. The next bit I all a bit of a blur, but I remember him opening the box and the first thing I saw wasn’t the ring, but the words Tiffany & Co written across the back of the box. I screamed “ARE YOU MESSING!?” and grabbed the box. I think he’s accepted this as a yes as I never actually said it! It turns out M had pre-warned the couple about what he was about to do and the camera was set to video.

Afterwards, we walked over to the casino and had a glass of champagne on the terrace before having a couple of goes on the bandits, M putting €50 on red this time and winning €100, before sharing an ice cream in the café overlooking the roundabout. 

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Bridezilla

The Wedding Party

M had already chosen his best man, well... best men. He had asked them within an hour of putting the ring on my finger! He is having his 3 best friends as equal best men. 

My bridesmaids were all easy for me to choose, but not as straight forward as M's. I have my friend 'A' who you met above. Not only did she introduce us (so all of this is her fault) but i have known her and her whole family since we went to Nursery together. They lived at the top of our street and our mum's spent a lot of time together. I will also be godmother to her little girl come January  

Bridesmaid 'K' is my half sister, so she was pretty much a given. Bridesmaid 'J' and 'H' are also childhood friends. We started school together at 4 years old and are still very much in contact (me with each of them, them not so much with each other) I am also godmother to their little girl and boy respectively.

Bridesmaid 'D' is my best friend from high school. We didn't have the best of starts (i didn't like her, for absolutely no reason) but we got sat next to each other once and that was it. 

All of my maids know each other, but only D and H are in the same circle of friends. I've not even asked them yet as i want to get them all together. I feel that the more i can get them all together, the more they can get comfortable with each other. 

As i have 5 bridesmaids and M has 3 best men, i suggested he has his brother, and my brother as ushers to even it out. So along with our mums and dads (and their partners) there you have our wedding party! 

 

Bridezilla

The 'W' Word

Its taken me a while to get my head around the idea that I'm engaged. I have a fiancé. At first I would cringe every time I was asked about the wedding, but I think I've finally got to a place where I can actually talk about it without my palms sweating and my toes curling in my shoes! 

Up to now M and I have sat down and gone through a guest list (our families are huge) and a budget. He initially suggested summer 2019, but we've settled on Summer 2018. I just thought 2019 seemed so far away, although I'm sure there will be times I'll wish we'd have stuck with the extra year to plan and save! We have been to a couple of wedding fayre's, and visited a couple of venues. Nothing is set in stone yet, but hopefully (in the not too distant future) we will have a date, a ceremony venue and a reception venue. 

But for now I need a lie down...

Bridezilla

I LOVE your username! Just makes me smile when I see it lol. 

Loving your story so far and look forward to reading more x 

Bridezilla

Ok, so after a busy few weeks (work wise) we have finally made a provisional booking with both venues and a registrar.

The countdown is now on to 4th August 2018. 

Ceremony. 

For reasons not quite known to myself, i have always been adamant that i didn't want the ceremony venue to be the same place as the reception. I think it's got something to do with having to move everyone about to change the room around. Anyway, my first choice for the ceremony was here:

I absolutely love this building. It is the ruins of St Luke's Church, now fondly known as the Bombed Out Church since it was damaged during the Blitz. It is licenced for wedding ceremonies, however at the moment it is undergoing repairs until Spring next year and the ownership of the site is under council review. We have no idea when the outcome of this will be, or if they will even be renewing its wedding licence. So we had to draw a line through this one and look elsewhere. 

Our second choice, and where we have booked is here: 

This is the concert room in St Georges Hall, which is a Grade I listed building, and one of Liverpool's most famous. 

Although this is our second choice, i am still in love with it. We are both very proud of our city and it's amazing architecture (we are second only to London in terms of the number of listed buildings we have) so to have these involved in our wedding was very important to us. 

Wedding addict

Bloody hell - that Venue is amazing !!!! I've never been to Liverpool so don't know it, but WOW!

 

I also rather love your first venue, so romantic, we looked at a ruined house but it's been snaffled by English Heritage and we can't use it.... my dream was Bolsover Castle ( for years !) but they stopped doing weddings the year we got engaged.

Bridezilla

Your venue is beautiful, That room just looks so atmospheric if that's even possible! the ruins are also lovely but imagine the stress over the weather!

Bridezilla

The ruins are amazing. The thought of it raining doesn't even bother me, I actually love the thought f everyone having umbrellas! We've already made peace that it's going to rain anyway, despite it being August. It's rained everywhere we've been, even Vegas!

Saying that though, St Georges Hall is an amazing venue, and every room is gorgeous. The concert hall room we have chosen is my favourite, I think because it reminds me of the muppet show!*

 

*New name for the wedding

Wedding addict

Ha ha yes I can just see Waldorf & thingymajig in one of the boxes heckling you during the ceremony .... and Miss Piggy draped over the grand piano while Kermit plays the entrance tune. .... hmmm maybe don't go too far down that line of thinking or your whole theme could go a bit bonkers ;) xxx

Bridezilla

ShitGotReal wrote (see post):

Ok, so after a busy few weeks (work wise) we have finally made a provisional booking with both venues and a registrar.

The countdown is now on to 4th August 2018. 

Ceremony. 

For reasons not quite known to myself, i have always been adamant that i didn't want the ceremony venue to be the same place as the reception. I think it's got something to do with having to move everyone about to change the room around. Anyway, my first choice for the ceremony was here:

I absolutely love this building. It is the ruins of St Luke's Church, now fondly known as the Bombed Out Church since it was damaged during the Blitz. It is licenced for wedding ceremonies, however at the moment it is undergoing repairs until Spring next year and the ownership of the site is under council review. We have no idea when the outcome of this will be, or if they will even be renewing its wedding licence. So we had to draw a line through this one and look elsewhere. 

Our second choice, and where we have booked is here: 

This is the concert room in St Georges Hall, which is a Grade I listed building, and one of Liverpool's most famous. 

Although this is our second choice, i am still in love with it. We are both very proud of our city and it's amazing architecture (we are second only to London in terms of the number of listed buildings we have) so to have these involved in our wedding was very important to us. 

 

 

Loving your planning thread so far, what a beautiful ring and venue!!

I'm also getting married on 4th August 2018! :) 

Bridezilla

Reception

So now Christmas is over and done with for another year, and I'm now answering the "When's the big day?" question with "Next year" it's time to crack on. 

Deposits have now been paid for ceremony venue, registrar and reception venue; The Atlantic Tower, which is the white building shaped like a ship to the left of this pic: 

The hotel doesn't look much from the outside, but as ive mentioned above, both M and i are very proud of our city, and it having views overlooking the Liver Building (that massive one in the middle) which is the most famous in Liverpool, sold it to us. Plus, you cant see the outside when you're in it!

The terrace overlooking the Liver Building. 

large panoramic windows overlooking the River Mersey (where the sun sets)

We looked at A LOT of venues for our reception but i was always able to pick something about them that i'd change. This place was ideal. It was big enough, there is a seperate seating area by the bar (i hate dancefloors right on top of the bar!) and we have exclusive use of the entire floor. Also, the womens toilets are massive and have seperate pamper room! I was weirdly overexcited by this...