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Bridezilla

Desert-bride wrote (see post):

The indie wedding fair is great, isn’t it? Glad you’ve found some cake suppliers!!

Yes it was exactly what we wanted! We went to the Trafalgar warehouse one as well which had good suppliers but there just wasn't as much of it. There's one on at Whirlow hall farm next weekend which I was going to try and go to as well but now we're in the middle of sorting cake and flowers I'm not sure how useful a wedding fayre will be as we'll have the majority of suppliers. 

Bridezilla

Music

H2B and I both love chilled acoustic music and we saw an amazing musician at a festival last year, well before we were engaged. We decided at the time that when we get married we'd love to ask him to play. Unfortunately, after tracking him down on Facebook it turns out he is extremely hard to get hold of and I can't find any other way to contact him. 

Luckily when we were at the indie wedding fayre we heard another guy that we loved (Michael Mulholland if anyone fancies a listen) so have decided to book him. He does DJ as well and is £850 for both so I don't think we have really saved any money by going for one supplier but hopefully it will just make life easier. We were initially going to have him playing just before or during the wedding breakfast but with this package we get 2x 45 minute sets so not sure when to have them - does anyone have any suggestions?.

Bridezilla

You could do before the ceremony and then during the drinks reception.  People generally like to have a little "light" music during those time periods and he sounds like he would be perfect!

Bridezilla

KittyFiennes wrote (see post):

You could do before the ceremony and then during the drinks reception.  People generally like to have a little "light" music during those time periods and he sounds like he would be perfect!

Oooh I love the idea of before the ceremony but ours is at a church so will have to see if he'd do two locations, worth asking though as I think that would be brilliant! 

I had thought about the drinks reception but ours is in a museum so people will probably spread out quite a bit through the museum, I might do it then anyway though as those that aren't interested in the museum can just stay near him and listen instead. Then hopefully everyone will be happy! 

Bridezilla

Flowers

As I mentioned, I went to a couple of good wedding fayres recently and so am really making moves with suppliers now. I saw a few lovely florists that I picked up fliers for and after trawling through their websites, H2B and I narrowed it down to our two favourites. We have now spoken to both of those and got quotes so just need to decide between them as we love them both. We(I) really want something quite natural and relaxed feeling, not too structured and colour wise we will go for lots of greenery, with blue/greys and ivory. 

Botanicals

I was so drawn to Botanicals as it was probably the first florist I saw that had a display of completely what I want, I loved everything she had on display and really liked the fact that she used a lot of things like thistles and lavender and similar things (I really know nothing about flowers so this will probably be the worst post ever to read - sorry). She had the most gorgeous button holes - even beloved Pinterest hasn't been able to show me anything as nice!

We went to meet with the owner Sarah at her house as she works from home, we felt so welcome and relaxed when we went round and I just thought we got on with her so well, she completely understood exactly what I wanted and was coming up with such amazing suggestions. I loved her and wanted to go for her there and then! 

Frances and Rose

We met Frances and Rose at the indie wedding fayre and my mum said their flowers made her cry - don't get me wrong they were beautiful flowers but honestly my mum is the last person I would expect to get emotional over something like that so I was very surprised! Frances and Rose are based on a farm and grow a lot of their own flowers which I think is really so lovely. They arranged to have a phone call with me which I was a bit skeptical about as I think it is much easier to meet in person with something like flowers but it was better than I expected and it gave them enough info to make a quote. Although they were very friendly I didn't get the same warmth and ease I got from Sarah. 

 

I was quite torn between the two and really hoped there would be a massive price difference to make a clear winner - unfortunately there is a £2 difference in quotes which does not help me much! 

Bridezilla

Florist Decision

so after much deliberating and stalking both florists Instagrams to within an inch of their lives I realised that actually I probably ever so slightly preferred Botanicals' flowers, this plus the fact she was so lovely and easy to get along with meant I knew she was the right decision. She will also move the flowers from the church to the reception venue which is a massive bonus as it seems such a shame to waste all those lovely flowers and only see them for an hour. Here are some of my inspiration pictures: 

Bridezilla

Desert-bride wrote (see post):

Good decision and useful that the flowers will be moved! I’m sure the church would be able to make use of them! But I guess you’ve paid for them, you should see them for the entire day. 

Yes I know I stupidly feel a bit guilty for taking the flowers from the church but then selfishly I think that I want to see my flowers all day! 

Bridezilla

Transport

I've decided to book a VW camper for my transport to the church, I was hoping to get something a bit different but a company locally will do a one way trip in the camper for £275, which is much cheaper than any other cars I've found and it means there would be room for mum and BMs to come with us as well so I think it's probably the best decision. 

I thint pretty much everything is sorted now in terms of suppliers, next job is to sort out save the dates and get on with some DIY so will do some updates soon when we start on that! 

Bridezilla

Been really quiet on here for a while now! Just taken a bit of a step back from wedding planning recently, I felt a bit like there wasn't much left to do so it stopped being so exciting! Planning on getting back into it though and getting on with things though, we keep meaning to design save the dates but in this lovely weather I've had no motivation! 

Bridezilla

I have been thinking about bridesmaids and the order down the aisle. I like having bridesmaids first as I think realistically once the bride has gone down then it's a bit of an anticlimax for them but also I think because I have quite a big dress it might be more practical for them to go after and pull my skirt out a little as they go past so that it looks good from the back? What are people's thoughts on this? 

Bridezilla

i think it would be fine for the bm to go in front of you as they will be at the end when you get there so can adjust your train if need be. I feel the same with our planning I srull need to sort a couple of suppliers but im currently in the midst of venue crisis so that will have to wait till I decide what we’re doing lol 

http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/a-wedding-to-plan-at-last--2019/441280.html

New bride

FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):

I have been thinking about bridesmaids and the order down the aisle. I like having bridesmaids first as I think realistically once the bride has gone down then it's a bit of an anticlimax for them but also I think because I have quite a big dress it might be more practical for them to go after and pull my skirt out a little as they go past so that it looks good from the back? What are people's thoughts on this? 

I wasnt sure about the order as well. But then I realised for practical reasons, as I have a pretty big train and part of my “entrance” is to walk down some stairs into the garden where we‘re getting married, Id need help rearranging my dress. So best they go after. If its similar for you maybe consider them going behind? 

re the anti climax thing, to be honest everyone is waiting to see the bride, I dont think it really matters if they go first or after in terms of buildup, most people will be eager to catch a glimpse of you. 

Bridezilla

August19 wrote (see post):

i think it would be fine for the bm to go in front of you as they will be at the end when you get there so can adjust your train if need be. I feel the same with our planning I srull need to sort a couple of suppliers but im currently in the midst of venue crisis so that will have to wait till I decide what we’re doing lol 

Yes that's true, shouldn't be a problem for them to go first and then sort my train. We'll have to have a play around in the church  I think and decide where works best for them.

Oh no what's your venue crisis?? 

Bridezilla

N111 wrote (see post):
FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):

I have been thinking about bridesmaids and the order down the aisle. I like having bridesmaids first as I think realistically once the bride has gone down then it's a bit of an anticlimax for them but also I think because I have quite a big dress it might be more practical for them to go after and pull my skirt out a little as they go past so that it looks good from the back? What are people's thoughts on this? 

I wasnt sure about the order as well. But then I realised for practical reasons, as I have a pretty big train and part of my “entrance” is to walk down some stairs into the garden where we‘re getting married, Id need help rearranging my dress. So best they go after. If its similar for you maybe consider them going behind? 

re the anti climax thing, to be honest everyone is waiting to see the bride, I dont think it really matters if they go first or after in terms of buildup, most people will be eager to catch a glimpse of you. 

Mine is not such a big entrance as that so hopefully should be okay, I could always get them to sort my dress and then stay still until they've gone down the aisle? 

Yes that's true you're right, just don't want them to feel that no one's looking at them because the bride's already been! 

Bridezilla

Suits

we are keen for H2B to have a tweed type suit (maybe tweed, maybe just something with a similar look depending on what he prefers). WerWe thinking probably dark/navy blue with a grey waistcoat to match the BMs. Some of my inspiration is below: 

There's a lovely little shop called tweed and groom (where desert-bride also got her grooms attire) so I sent h2b and best man off to try some suits and decide what they thought. H2B tried on quite a few and found two he really liked, the groom was supposed to be trying some on as well but for some reason he decided not to so I will just decide for him and he'll have to wear whatever I put him in. 

It all sounded very positive though and prices were way more reasonable than I expected so we're both going back on Friday for me to see some of the suits so will hopefully have some pictures of h2b.

Bridezilla

FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):

Decided on my dress!!!! 

So after trying on two different dresses and loving them both I eventually decided that the first one I loved was much better than the second as I just thought it was so special and I might regret going more simple. However, after falling in love with two I wanted to be sure that this was the dress for me, as mum and dad are paying I would feel way worse if I regretted my dress than if I had paid for it myself. So mum and I decided to go to another shop and make sure there was nothing else out there that I loved more. 

So this morning we went to a lovely shop that really could not have been more helpful and tried a few on, low and behold I fell in love with a third dress! However after going home and discussing it, me and mum both decided that dress number 1 was still the winner, I even asked my dad for his opinion and even he (who never ever has an opinion on female clothes - he likes to stand in changing rooms and say "it looks lovely, just buy it" to everything you try on ) preferred the first dress. I also realised that the second and third dresses I've loved were very similar to ones I tried on in the first shop that, although lovely, were very quickly discounted because they weren't as good as the one I loved. 

So it is official, I have decided that this is the dress for me: 

 

The skirt comes in ivory or champagne and I have chosen ivory. The bodice is only supposed to come in nude but they have agreed that they can make it with an ivory bodice instead for a small fee, I will also be having the shoulders adjusted to sit slightly more off the shoulder.

This dress is absolutely gorgeous! Loving your thread so far :) we're getting married in August 2019 so similar time frame to you. Can't wait to see how yours progresses!

Cecilia x

My planning thread : http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/relaxed-summer-wedding-in-the-chilterns/454084.html

Bridezilla

Cecilia13 wrote (see post):
FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):

Decided on my dress!!!! 

So after trying on two different dresses and loving them both I eventually decided that the first one I loved was much better than the second as I just thought it was so special and I might regret going more simple. However, after falling in love with two I wanted to be sure that this was the dress for me, as mum and dad are paying I would feel way worse if I regretted my dress than if I had paid for it myself. So mum and I decided to go to another shop and make sure there was nothing else out there that I loved more. 

So this morning we went to a lovely shop that really could not have been more helpful and tried a few on, low and behold I fell in love with a third dress! However after going home and discussing it, me and mum both decided that dress number 1 was still the winner, I even asked my dad for his opinion and even he (who never ever has an opinion on female clothes - he likes to stand in changing rooms and say "it looks lovely, just buy it" to everything you try on ) preferred the first dress. I also realised that the second and third dresses I've loved were very similar to ones I tried on in the first shop that, although lovely, were very quickly discounted because they weren't as good as the one I loved. 

So it is official, I have decided that this is the dress for me: 

 

The skirt comes in ivory or champagne and I have chosen ivory. The bodice is only supposed to come in nude but they have agreed that they can make it with an ivory bodice instead for a small fee, I will also be having the shoulders adjusted to sit slightly more off the shoulder.

This dress is absolutely gorgeous! Loving your thread so far :) we're getting married in August 2019 so similar time frame to you. Can't wait to see how yours progresses!

Aww thank you, I really love it! Oooh I love having someone with similar timings to compare, do you have a thread?