I've read quite a few of these planning threads and have decided to start my own, with the aid of a bottle of wine to help me believe that someone will actually want to read this!
My fiance and myself have been engaged since Christmas day 2017 and have already been through the absolute works when it comes to wedding planning. At first we had planned for February 2020, our 5 year anniversary. However with R wanting to go back to college it meant that we didn't even know if he'd be in the country come then. Then we tried to plan a small wedding and became so caught up in 'keeping up with the Jones's' that it all became so overwhelming that we almost gave up. We then looked at finances and realised that, if we were self funding, we would not be able to afford a simple wedding for at least 6 or 7 years and decided to postpone planning.
This brings us to now. My parents have graciously offered a large sum of money towards the wedding and are perfectly happy with our ideas for a small and intimate ceremony followed by a larger reception. We only want our immediate families in attendance for our vows and then we will celebrate with everyone else later in the day. Ideally, we are looking at less than forty during the day, including children, and then over 120 at night.
Sometimes it feels as if weddings must be this huge, extravagant affair with everyone and their auntie's dog in attendance. We have never wanted that and this feels just 'us'.