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Bridezilla

Just as a heads up, there is a big sale on the Jon Richard website with some real bargains to be had plus 10% off for new customers - just got this little beaut for an absolute steal! 

I did fall in love with an Ivory & Co headband at my dress shop but just can't justify £105 for a headband! I previously bought a cheap hairslide from eBay but it isn't great quality, so hoping this is as nice as it looks online.

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

Feeling frustrated :(

Aargh -  why are suppliers so bloody slow at sending info through? Told my photographer we wanted to book over 2 weeks ago, he said he would send paperwork through so we could pay the deposit and despite chasing, we still haven't received it. He has been busy working abroad but if he just said that in the first place I wouldn't have been stressing.

Equally, the make up lady I'm interested in booking takes about 5 days to reply to an email! 

I've reached a point where I'm bored of the whole bloody wedding and just want to nip to the local registry office and be done with it (in fairness that's what I wanted in the first place!), or go abroad just the 3 of us and get married on a beach.

It's so much money and I can't help but think we'd be better off just paying a chunk off our mortgage with it instead. A very well paying contract we thought OH was going to get has fallen through, and while we can still afford the wedding as we booked it a year ago, before this contract was even on the table, it would have helped us so much :(

In other news, H2B spoke to FMIL about showing my dress pics to people and she told him she was sorry.....but then she saw me the next day for several hours and didn't mention it or apologise to me. I didn't bring it up as it was Father's Day and I didn't want to cause an atmosphere but I was pretty disappointed in her. I'll just leave it now though.

Work is bloody stressful which isn't helping my mood, and I'm a bridesmaid for my friend and going on her hen weekend tomorrow. I'm dreading it, as some of the people going have just been so unreasonable & awful to me and the other bridesmaid throughout the planning, and are still being quite snide. I just can't be bothered with it.

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

My headband arrived and I love it so that has cheered me up a little 😀

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

Oh MrsC sorry to hear that! Although I do love your headband! 

Suppliers are a pain in the arse, I don’t think they realise how annoying it is when they delay things. Although I do try and remind myself that most of them don’t tend to be in front of a laptop. 

It is a lot of money, but you only get married once. You’ll have an amazing day and memories to last forever. 

Your FMIL is probably a bit embarrassed! 

Hope the hen do isn’t too stressful, have a few glasses of wine, sounds like you deserve it  💐  🍷 xx

Bridezilla

Thanks GinAndBling.

I really do veer all the time between wanting the wedding and just thinking we shouldn't bother....I guess because it wasn't my first choice of wedding.

Off on hen do at lunchtime....I'm looking forward to the lay ins most, my toddler is up by 6 most mornings!

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

Sorry to hear about your FMIL's behaviour, I know that even though she was probably doing it out of excitement it is still annoying for you! 

I completely understand about the hen do, I went on my cousin's hen do a few weeks ago and if I wasn't a bridesmaid I wouldn't have gone but felt I had no choice! In the end it wasn't so bad but I definitely wouldn't say I enjoyed it and the fact that it cost me nearly £1000 overall just annoyed me as it's the last thing I want to be spending that money on! I hope it ends up not being as bad as you fear, at least if it's awful you can vow to make yours a nicer experience! 

On more positive news though your headband looks gorgeous! 

Bridezilla

Thanks FMT!

So, the hen do went quite well and everyone was well behaved in the main....feel absolutely ruined today and wish I'd booked the day off work but feeling a lot less stressed now it's over! But the bride had a fab time and that's all that matters :)

I STILL haven't had the paperwork etc over from my photographer! I'm starting to wonder if he is hedging his bets - we are getting married on a popular date and have booked one of his cheaper packages - I wonder if he has someone interested in a more expensive package and is waiting to see if they sign up? That or he's just inept...either way he is getting on my nerves!

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

Thanks to a sale tip off from Georgina on here, I've bought my bridesmaid and flower girl gifts from Bloom Boutique.

I bought 5 necklaces @ £8 each reduced from £16. You get 10% off your first order too (if you sign up to their newsletter) which was another £4 off so 5 gifts for £36 which I'm really pleased with 😁

They have all got personalised heart necklaces with their initial on, in a box that says "Thank you for being my bridesmaid/flower girl".

 

I have already bought the 2 bridesmaids silver earrings from Next and an Azendi bracelet each to wear on the day but wanted a gift to give them all during the speeches too.

In other non news....still no paperwork through from the photographer 😠 It's been 3 weeks, he's getting very close to being replaced at this rate!

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

I would find another photographer to be honest. He sounds like he is waiting for someone to take the more expensive option and if he’s unreliable now imagine what he would be like on your wedding day.

Bridezilla

Yes MrsH I am thinking the same! I'm going to give him another few days without chasing and if I don't hear I'll start looking at other options.

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

Tomorrow morning we have our first planning meeting with our venue, to start deciding on menus, order of the day, iron out any questions etc we have.

I have pretty much chosen our menu from the options they sent me, so unless they have any new dishes that shouldn't take long. We eat there fairly often so I'm confident in the food. They don't do tastings as they are a 'budget' venue, but I've been to weddings there before and the food is ten times better than most grander venues I've been to. 

I'm going to ask if they allow confetti, and also what decorations they will put up and what I'll need to do myself.

Are there any obvious questions I should be asking at this stage? My mind has gone a bit blank!

 

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

I got the bridal party gifts from Bloom Boutique, and I'm really happy with them. They were super fast too, I only ordered them Wednesday night and they came this morning!

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

Tomorrow morning we have our first planning meeting with our venue, to start deciding on menus, order of the day, iron out any questions etc we have.

I have pretty much chosen our menu from the options they sent me, so unless they have any new dishes that shouldn't take long. We eat there fairly often so I'm confident in the food. They don't do tastings as they are a 'budget' venue, but I've been to weddings there before and the food is ten times better than most grander venues I've been to. 

I'm going to ask if they allow confetti, and also what decorations they will put up and what I'll need to do myself.

Are there any obvious questions I should be asking at this stage? My mind has gone a bit blank!

 

Guest accommodation, fireworks if you want them, sparklers, real candles, wine tasting, if your having charged plates can all guests be seated on the tables, how many tables fit your reception room, cost of supplier meals, bridal room and somewhere for you to get ready if necessary.

Bridezilla

MrsHowgate2B wrote (see post):
MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

Tomorrow morning we have our first planning meeting with our venue, to start deciding on menus, order of the day, iron out any questions etc we have.

I have pretty much chosen our menu from the options they sent me, so unless they have any new dishes that shouldn't take long. We eat there fairly often so I'm confident in the food. They don't do tastings as they are a 'budget' venue, but I've been to weddings there before and the food is ten times better than most grander venues I've been to. 

I'm going to ask if they allow confetti, and also what decorations they will put up and what I'll need to do myself.

Are there any obvious questions I should be asking at this stage? My mind has gone a bit blank!

 

Guest accommodation, fireworks if you want them, sparklers, real candles, wine tasting, if your having charged plates can all guests be seated on the tables, how many tables fit your reception room, cost of supplier meals, bridal room and somewhere for you to get ready if necessary.

Thanks MrsH you have reminded me - I need to ask which hotels they get preferential rates with! OH's family & friends don't live locally so we'll be needing quite a few rooms. His parents want to stay for 2 or 3 nights as well.

Candles/sparklers/meal for photographer also a good shout! Sadly we can't stretch to fireworks, plus one of my BMs is terrified of them so wouldn't put her through it.

I know about the seating plan already as there is only one way to fit my numbers in but would like a template so I can roughly organise my rather complicated family's seating plan.

It is a pub/restaurant so I'll be getting ready at home and OH will have a hotel room to get ready in.

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

Asked OH if he had any questions for the venue to add to my list.....he is insistent he wants to ask if he can have chips instead of roast/minted new potatoes at the wedding breakfast 🤔😩😂

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

........and because our venue are chilled AF they said yes, he can have his own personal portion of chips. FFS 😂

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

So the meeting went really well, as I expected it to. I've known the manager for years and he and his team are just really efficient and helpful while being totally relaxed and fuss free....they just take all the worry out of everything!

So in that vein;

We are allowed candles

We are allowed sparklers

We are allowed confetti

We are allowed a play area in the garden for the kids with giant garden games

The venue will put all of our decorations up and even let me store all the flowers in their chilled cellar the night before to ensure they don't wilt.

As above they are also totally happy to do a portion of chips for OH and to cook a completely plain chicken breast with no sauce for OH's nan!

We discussed but shelved my plan of having bottled beers on the tables as well as wine as it would end up costing quite a bit more....but my dad's wedding present to all his kids has been to put a substantial amount behind the bar so I imagine he'll do the same for us, so guests can just get beers from the bar.

They also take all the wine that is paid for but not drunk from the wedding breakfast, and put it in ice buckets on the bar for the evening reception, so none will go to waste. The other option was to take it home but we aren't big drinkers at home so no point.

 

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

Confirmed menus 😁

Canapes & welcome drinks

Vegetable spring rolls, smoked salmon blinis, various mini tartlets

Pimms, orange juice, water

Starters

Prawn cocktail salad

Crispy duck & mango salad

Chicken liver & brandy pate, toast, tomato & red onion chutney

Cherry tomato & buffalo mozzarella bruschetta

Mains

Italian style chicken - topped with ham & mozzarella with a tomato & basil sauce (OH's choice), roast potatoes

Rack of lamb, pistachio crust, redcurrant reduction, roast potatoes

Fillet of sea bass, lime, ginger & prawn butter, new potatoes

Roasted vegetable enchilada, new potatoes

All served with carrots, sugar snaps & baby corn

Desserts

Eton mess

Raspberry & white chocolate mascarpone cheesecake 

Sticky toffee pudding served with vanilla ice cream & butterscotch sauce

Cheese plate with mini port

Followed by coffee & Mints

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Children's menu

Starter - garlic bread

Mains - chicken breast with new potatoes & veg OR sausages & chips with veg OR scampi with chips and salad

Desserts - chocolate brownie & vanilla ice cream OR melon & strawberries

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Evening BBQ

Cheeseburgers in buns

Kentish sausages in rolls with onions

Grilled halloumi burgers

Tomato & onion salad / coleslaw/ new potato salad/ mixed leaf salad. 

Our wedding cake and doughnut tower will be served with the BBQ.

No one should starve 😂

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

So finally heard back from the photographer and all sorted thankfully! He actually has a new deal so we can choose one of the following as part of our package - no idea which to choose, what do you ladies think?

1) Engagement shoot - I'm really unphotogenic so this might help the wedding pics be less hideous?!?

2) 20 thank you cards and a large print in silver frame

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html

Bridezilla

I've been looking around at invitation suites and there are so many really nice ones available as free downloads that I think we'll go down that route. I originally was going to use one from Weddingchicks.com which have some lovely ones, but now have found a design I like which is much more flexible and matches our colours on cardsandpockets.com so going to use that as can make matching signs etc for the venue. Will just change the text colour to navy.

Popped to Hobbycraft at lunch today and got 50 plain white folded invites with matching envelopes to print them on once we have the design sorted - on offer reduced to £2.50 in the size I needed! I can't be arsed with pocketfolds etc so I just want it as a folded 4 page booklet.

Also bought a plain white scrapbook to use as a guest book - whether we end up doing the Polaroid guest book or just have people sign it it will work, and I'll print a matching front page for it.

My planning thread: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/forum/your-planning-threads/town-centre-barn-wedding---august-2019/452338.html