Difficult bridesmaids

Need a bit of advice as I am not sure if I am being oversensitive! I have 5 adult bridesmaids (it originally was going to be 2 but then I thought the other 3 had been friends longer and I wanted them to be more a part of the day). The last 3 that I have asked are being particularly difficult about my hen do. My first 2 b'maids have been brilliant, they have arranged a spa for the day and the do continues to a meal/club in the evening. Sounds expensive but they have worked it out to cover for all budgets. The last 3 bridesmaids took almost a month to reply (they were all supplied with an SAE!). They now say they cannot afford to come to the spa so are only doing the evening part and I have been engaged since August 2005 so they had plenty of time to budget! Yes, we all have lots to pay out for, mortgage etc but I have not asked them to put their hand in their pocket for outfits, shoes etc once. Neither are they staying overnight at the hotel (which is fine by me). None of the girls are married themselves, only one is engaged. Although they are good friends I have (after thinking about it) always known they have a slight selfish streak but it makes me feel really deflated and as if they just dont care. I am very thoughtful and usually easy-going but will flip if people push me enough & they know this.. Do you think I should speak to them & tell them how I feel or just leave them to it?

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