Friend back with troublesome ex and wants him to come

I am getting married in August this year and have the RSVP date for replies has just passed. I have a very close friend from university who is invited. She lives over three hours away. At the time of me sending invites out, her and her partner has just split after a lot of problems. Mainly down to his temper. So I invited her and her son, who is coming up to one year old. My friend has now said that she and her partner are thinking of getting back together and are taking things slowly. She has asked if he can come to the wedding. It would make it easier as they could drive down together. My friend doesn't drive and would otherwise have to get the bus. The thing is, our day reception list is already really high. My mother is stressing with late editions and I know she will say no. I don't really want him there during the day, after all he has put my friend through. And what if they split up again? I have said that he could come to the church and evening reception. I said that he could not come to the day as we were already over budget on catering and guest list was high. He has now said he will pay for his meal if he can come! I find this to be quite cheeky, to be honest! I said no way, that sounds dodgey but my friend wants him to come! What can I say now? I don't want to upset my friend. How can I say no without being awful and saying he can't come? I don't want to fall out with my mate over this.

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