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I chose my maid of honor because she was the one friend I still really talked too when I went to uni because as normal friends do I drifted away from friends while at uni because of the distance etc. but this friend I still spoke to and wrote letters to and really thought she must be a true friend so when it came to choosing my maid of honor i didn't think twice. But the trouble started as soon as i asked my H2B jokingly said she wasn't invted and she took this seriously and said she could not be my maid of honor due to H2B hurting her feelings. We convinced her to forgive him and to be my maid of honor, she then fell out with me over me going to choose my dress with my mum (she was invited to come but was working and my mum who's paying for the dress could only do that day). She moaned about the weekend i chose for my hen do as she is working! Also whenever i see her we now have nothing in common and i always leave feeling upset at how i don't get on with her and how she makes me feel. also she hasn't seen me for ages i had lost loads of weight and dyed my hair and nothing she didn't mention one thing!!! Do i keep her as maid of honor or do i let her down?? help me someone!!!

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Maid of Honor making life hell

Oh dear

We all seem to have had one problem or another with Matron of Honours. I sacked mine and it was the best decision I could make hubbytobe and I are so much happier. Stress gone and moving on.

Hard decisions have to be made and lived with but at the end of the day its your wedding not theirs.

Don't whatever you do feel guilty it doesn't help either.

Its their own faults by the way they behave that make us make such awful decisions.

Best of luck everyone.

Fee

Posted by FeeFee232
April 28, 2008 12:50 PM
Maid of Honor making life hell

Would you believe I signed up today to talk to other brides about this very problem. I completely empathise with how you feel mrspsmith. I have just come back from my hen which I had to organise myself because my BM couldn't be bothered. I put it down to stress and personal issues but when we got there all she did was worry about herself. My hen night was awful and I could hardly speak to her because I was afraid that I might blow. This is one of many things that have made me realise that she is either jealous or simply not bothered about me. I have no intention of her spoiling my big day. I only intend to get married once. Have a heart to heart with her, but really if you feel so awful in her company now, why have someone like that playing such an important part of your day. You need people who love you and want the best for you on the day. You want to look back on your photos and see the joy on peoples' faces, not forced crocodile smiles.Just make sure YOU enjoy your day. Get rid of her and don't have to have a maid of honour. Flower girls are just fine. If you can't have flowergirls why not have a close male friend stand in and have your own "best man".Make your own rules and make yourself happy because ultimately it's your day.
Power to Brides!

Posted by CrazyKittee
April 01, 2008 02:36 PM
Maid of Honor making life hell

I also have a difficult maid of honour but feel better reading these replies to know i am not
the only one! Like 'takerbabe' my MOH only seems to be interested in what she is going to wear and what she looks like and to be honest its the only thing thats casuing me stress so far. I think its time to be more firm and let these people know that this our and our H2B's day and if they don't understand then maybe they arn't such good friends after all and certainly not people we want 'helping' us to enjoy the most memorable days of our lives!

Posted by zippy1980
January 15, 2008 07:03 PM
Maid of Honor making life hell

i to have a forcefull maid of honour but i have found by being firm but polit really works. She to is upset that she wasnt there when i chose my dress (my mum is paying and wanted it to be a mum and daughter thing).She is more worried about what she is going to look like and what suits her etc.With 5 other bridesmaid i have explained that it is MY wedding and if she wants to be a prt she will have to behave. Its worked. She still is offhand when i mention things i have done without her but tough luck.BE FIRM

Posted by takerbabe
October 07, 2007 03:23 PM
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