You can't stop gazing at the sparkling ring on your finger and want to start planning your big day, but you just can't decide what type of ceremony you want. Do you go traditional and opt for a church affair, or a modern, civil ceremony? If you're struggling to decide, just answer these questions to find out what would be best for you!
The last time you went to church was....
a) You can't remember, but suffice to say it was a long time ago
b) A few weeks ago. You try and go whenever you can
c) You've never so much as stepped foot in a church
You'd like to get married in a church because...
a) It's important to your family and you want a traditional wedding
b) It's important to you that you're married in the house of God
c) It would look nice in the photos
You're questioning getting married in a church because...
a) You think it might seem strange as you're not a church goer
b) Your friends aren't really church goers and you're worried it may put them off
c) They make you feel uncomfortable
What appeals to you about a civil ceremony?
a) You can write your own vows and personalise the ceremony
b) Not much but you'll go along with the idea if it's what the majority of your family thinks is right
c) You like the idea of a less formal setting as your focus is more on the celebrations after the ceremony
What puts you off about a civil ceremony?
a) It's over really quickly and you like the pomp and ceremony that comes with a church wedding
b) It's doesn't take place in a church!
c) You don't want to get married in an impersonal register office
If you answered mostly a's...
Your heart is saying church because you've always imagined marrying in one, but your head is telling you it wouldn't be right for you because you're not particularly religious. Talk to your groom and consider his feelings before you decide. It could be that you compromise by having a civil ceremony with a church blessing, or you might both prefer to take your vows in a church. Bear in mind that you'll need to marry in a church close to where you live so you can visit it regularly in the run-up to the wedding, as many churches insist on this. Go with what your heart says, or you won't be happy with your choice.
If you answered mostly b's...
It's clear that the only marriage ceremony for you is a church ceremony. However you're aware that religion is a very personal thing and you don't want your guests to feel uncomfortable. Stop worrying and remember... this is your day! Everyone will respect your decision and will enjoy watching you get married, wherever it may be, and no-one will be there to judge you.
If you answered mostly c's..
Churches make you uncomfortable which is an absolute no-no on your wedding day. And remember having a civil ceremony doesn't necessarily mean getting wed in a register office. You have the pick of hundreds of different venues. If it's a more informal, personalised ceremony you're after, then start looking for a venue that's right for you instead of wasting time worrying whether a church would be more fitting.
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