1. In the early days...
A. He swept me off my feet with fancy dates and expensive gifts.
B. We fell head over heels and couldn't wait to move in together.
C. He had three girlfriends on the go - but after months of tears and trauma, I snared him!
2. It's three months before the wedding. My fiancé...
A. Has over-ruled most of my ideas. I almost long for one of those grooms who can't be bothered - at least I'd get my way sometimes.
B. Is helping, but when I mention favours or colour themes his eyes glaze over.
C. Sticks his head in the sand when the wedding is mentioned. Lately he's been threatening to call the whole thing off.
3. If I put on 5lb, my fiancé...
A. Starts preparing fat-free meals.
B. Doesn't seem to notice. He likes me curvy.
C. Makes piggy noises whenever I open the fridge.
4. An evening at home together...
A. Means dinner with fine wine - if he isn't interrupted with work calls on the mobile.
B. Might be a candlelight dinner or a video and a take-away, but it's always fun.
C. Is rare - he just moans that he wants to be out with his mates.
5. My fiancé thinks the house is clean if...
A. Every surface sparkles and there's a whiff of Dettox in the air.
B. There's no clothing on the floor and the bed's made.
C. The hazardous waste disposal squad hasn't sealed the door with "Keep Out" tape.
6. When we have kids...
A. He'll read every book on birth and childcare. He expects me to be an ideal mother - just like his mum.
B. He's keen to be a great dad, but has a lot to learn - he doesn't have much experience with babies.
C. He's a bit more "lad" than "dad". He'll be proud of his kids, but change nappies? No way!
7. When we disagree...
A. He clams up and I can't figure out what's wrong.
B. We try not to go to bed angry - making up is lots of fun!
C. His nasty side really comes out. I have to admit I'm afraid of him.
8. If I've had a hard day, my fiancé...
A. Tells me about his own boss, and I realise how lucky I am!
B. Is patient and listens to my complaints - he always takes my side.
C. Still expects his dinner on the table - he has no time for whingers.
9. Most weekends...
A. He works, but lends me his platinum card for shopping. Sundays mean lunch with his parents.
B. Whether we visit friends, go out on the town or just stay in together, we enjoy each other's company.
C. He's out at the footie or off with his mates so I spend most weekends with my friends.
10. When we're old and grey...
A. I'll have a few nips and tucks so he won't look for a younger model!
B. We'll still be best friends.
C. To be honest I can't really see us growing old together.
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How did he do?
Score 10 points for every A answer, 5 points for B and 1 point for C.
71-100 points Your fiancé seems practically perfect, but that probably drives you mad sometimes. His expectations may be hard to live up to. He wants an ideal wedding, but the day should also match your dreams. The two of you need to learn to compromise, so that neither feels slighted. Work on your communication skills. It's like pulling teeth trying to find out what's bothering him, but let him know it's okay to share his feelings and that he doesn't have to be in control all the time. His work is important to him, but time together should take priority.
31-70 points Even though your man isn't exactly thrilled by wedding frills he'll still make an ideal husband. It's great that he's helping with the plans. Reward his efforts and let him know how much you appreciate him. Your fiancé may not be an Adonis, but he's relaxed and confident about who he is. He also loves you for who you are and will be a pleasant and supportive mate through the years. Take care to treat each other well and keep the lines of communication open. The two of you get along really well, and your home is sure to be full of love and laughter.
Below 30 Is that wedding bells we hear - or alarm bells? Are you being realistic about this marriage? Look beyond the glorious wedding day. Will this man really be there for better, for worse? He seems more concerned with his own needs than yours, and this is unlikely to change after your vows are exchanged. Being afraid of him is a very serious sign indeed. You should be able to speak your mind without fear of abuse - verbal or physical. Pre-marital counselling could help the two of you resolve your differences or at least help you evaluate what's best for your future happiness.
