Bride asks bridesmaids to "pitch in" for £7,000 Marchesa wedding dress

“My bride-to-be mate just crossed a fundamental friendship line.”

We all know a bridezilla horror story or two, but we have to say this one takes the cake. 

An unhappy bridesmaid wrote to Mamma Mia to share her shock at being asked by the bride to "pitch in" for her $10,500 Marchesa wedding dress - on top of paying for their own $550 dresses - as she'd gone over budget.

She wrote, "Caroline had finally found a stunning satin Marchesa wedding dress that she looked perfect in. The only problem was it cost twice her dress budget - $10,500. After many 'dooo itttt, you should totally splurge, you only get married once' reassurances for her many bridesmaids, she decided to purchase it.


"That night, my inbox pinged again with another of the group emails from Caroline that I'd started to dread. The subject line was 'Bridesmaid dress contribution' and it made me break out into a cold sweat.

"The latest bridal update was a long email outlining how she and Jase were hugely over their bridal budget now that she’d splurged on the dress. That it was 'totally fine if you can’t' but she would really love if we could “pitch in” around $150 each towards her 'dream dress'. That it’d mean so very much to her and would mean that as she walked down the aisle, she’d be wearing something we’d all had a part in.


"Yes, she was essentially asking her bridal party to chip in for her dress. As well as our own outfits, accommodation, the hen’s party, bridal shower and the three spa days she wanted us to plan prior to the wedding. My bank account was already taking a battering from the wedding and now this?"

The bridesmaid concluded off by saying she was thinking of "bailing" on the wedding, and friendship.



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24/06/2016 at 22:01

What a horrible situation for you! This all adds up and I think she should understand if you tell her that you would love to but with all other expenses you cannot pitch in. If she doesn't get that it really puts a strain on the relationship but enough is enough. I was the only bridesmaid at my friends wedding last year. I had to pay for the dress, plus wedding present, hen do, printing a wedding magazine, traveling from the UK to Germany and overnight stay at location. Plus the day before and the wedding day was just super stressful. In the end I was happy to be part of it and also play such an important role for her. I guess things can be looked over if your work and effort is appreciated properly. I am getting married next year in Italy without bridesmaids, only guests. However if that friend is not turning up after everything I have done for her wedding I will be hugely disappointed... Good luck!


24/06/2016 at 16:54

I found out recently about American bridesmaids/ grooms men forking out for their outfits. In the uk, the bride and groom pay. It seems so rude 'hey I want you to do this for me and you can pay'. This takes the biscuit though


24/06/2016 at 00:15

I would never do this. If you go over your budget well that's your bloody fault. I've planned my wedding down quite well yeah I went over budget, but you know that's on me and wanting 4 extra guests than planned. But I brought the girls dresses and shoes I'd they needed them some wanted to wear shows they had and felt comfortable in. Great news for me. Hen night is only £45 each and I'm driving 4 of them up to the hotel myself. I'd never let them pay for their own bridesmaids dresses let alone chip in for my own! You want stuff you buy it I was brought up to save and be wedding my money gets used it's that simple.


23/06/2016 at 19:55

I don't expect my bridesmaids to pay for anything - why should they - It was my decision to get married. 


23/06/2016 at 16:24

I think weddings can bring out the best and worst in people. I would definitely be offended if someone asked me to help pay for her dress.  


23/06/2016 at 14:42

I reckon I would demote myself to a guest if a bride asked this of me. It would certainly make me question our shared values and beliefs. What an absolute joke 😅

Soon To Be Mrs Carberry

23/06/2016 at 13:24

Exactly!!!! I understand that weddings are expensive but I cannot comprehend those who choose to have champagne days on beer budgets. There's no problem with scaling back. I abhor those who put others out of pocket for their day.

I thought I'd heard it all but this here takes the biscuit


23/06/2016 at 13:08

Oh my!!! I'd tell the bride to get stuffed. 

I was Bridesmaid for my best friend a few months ago. She brought our dresses, we did offer to pay and jewellery, and we paid for our shoes, hair and make up. we were happy to do this as we had offered to pay for it all. 

Woth my wedding I'm buying all 3 bridesmaids dresses, paying for their hair, make up and their jewellery and the girls will buy their shoes. everyone is happy with this, however the girls want to pay for more but Ive said no. Ive compromised by letting them pay for their shoes lol 


23/06/2016 at 12:50

Hell no to that! Although we are on the tightest of budgets ( my own dress is preloved!) I don't believe my bridesmaid should have to pay for anything, they are there as help and support not finance! I am sure she could have found a cheaper dress that suited her than that and you shouldn't try on dresses that are out of your budget! Good luck to that groom!

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