If you and your partner set up home together years ago and already have all the household appliances you need, a traditional wedding gift list might not be right for you, and asking for money as a wedding gift might seem like the most attractive option.
It’s perfectly acceptable to ask wedding guests for money as a wedding gift instead of a physical wedding present, but it’s not always easy to ask people for money and can make you feel awkward.
Soften your request with one of these money poems and enclose in your invitation to let people know where you stand.
Alternatively, if poems aren’t your thing, why not tastefully tell guests: “Your presence at our wedding is present enough, but if you want to gift us something, a contribution to our honeymoon would be much appreciated.”
Read on for our suggestions on how to politely ask for money as a wedding present.
If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way,
A gift of money in a card would really make our day!
As wedding gifts are bulky and we’re a little short on space,
Some money would be the ideal gift to help us buy our place!
We know it’s not tradition
It’s not the way it’s done
But instead of a wedding list
We’d like a bit of sun
We’ve lived together quite a while
And all the bills are paid
We’ve got our plates, our pots and pans,
Our plans have all been made
We would appreciate your help though,
To send us on our way
A contribution to our honeymoon
In a land quite far away
But most importantly, we request,
You come to our wedding as our guest
To share with us our special day
And have some fun along the way
As we’ve lived together for a year or two,
We really don’t need anything new
But if you were thinking of getting us a small wedding gift,
Some money for our honeymoon wouldn’t go a miss
We’ve just bought a house and filled it with stuff,
From books to sofas, we’ve got more than enough!
Instead of more wine glasses, we’d really love some cash,
So that we can book a perfect honeymoon and head off in a dash
A romantic beach break would really do the trick,
As soon as we can afford it, we’ll be on that plane quick!
As we’re keen to start our married life in style,
An amazing honeymoon would really make us smile
Your financial donation would truly mean a lot,
So thank you for contributing to our honeymoon pot!
In order to make our dreams come true,
We’d love to honeymoon for a week or two.
Instead of a dinner set, a vase or a bowl,
A financial contribution would make our wedding whole
We’ve created a bank account to save our honeymoon money,
We really appreciate it, and we can’t wait to go somewhere sunny!
We’ll soon be saying ‘I do’,
And for a gift, if you haven’t got a clue,
We’d really love some cash,
So, for our honeymoon we can splash,
Out on an amazing and romantic trip for two!
We made a commitment, some time ago,
Together through life, we were destined to go
To save you looking, shopping and buying,
Here is an idea, we hope you’ll like trying!
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well,
And please make a donation to our wishing well.
Our life together has already begun
And we almost have everything under the sun
So we both thought we would make a suggestion
To save you from all the searching and guessing
Instead of spending lots and lots
Just put some money with your card
And place it into our money box
Large amounts are not anticipated
Any amount would be appreciated
Now that we have saved you all the fuss
We can’t wait for you to celebrate with us!
Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don’t need a wedding list of dishes
We have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
And we have dreams for which we have to save
If you would like to give us a gift
A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift
We like to think of it as our wishing well
Which will be filled with your love, we can tell!
We’ve lived together for quite a while,
With all our pots and pans,
And as we don’t need homely gifts,
We have another plan!
We know it’s not traditional,
But it’s easier that’s for sure,
To have no wedding list at all,
Your attendance means much more!
For those of you who do insist,
We have a savings pot,
A small gift to add to this,
Would really mean a lot!
We’ve been together for a few years now;
We have pots and pans and linen and towels;
We have glasses and toasters, really quite a few;
So instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you;
If it doesn’t offend and it won’t send you running;
What we would really appreciate is quite simply money;
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain;
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same!
We don’t want to offend but we have it all,
All household goods and so much more.
To save you shopping, sit back and rest,
A gift of currency is our request
Don’t go overboard or rob any banks,
Any little thing will make us smile with thanks
We supply the wishing well,
No wrapping, an envelope who can tell
Now that we have saved you all the fuss,
We’d love it if you would come and celebrate with us!
We haven’t got a gift list for all of you to see,
because as you all know we never can agree!
But if you’d like to help us start our married life,
cash or high street vouchers, would save a lot of strife!
More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
Our home has been made with love and care,
Most things we need we’ve already got,
And in our home we can’t fit a lot!
A wishing well we thought would be great,
(But only if you wish to participate),
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish …. but shhh don’t tell!
Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,
We can look back and say it was thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we’re sure,
That one day soon you will get what you wished for.
So what do you get
For the bride and groom
Whose house needs things
In every room?
When shopping for a present
Please don’t be rash
As there is always the option
To just give cash!
We hope you don’t find
Our request to be funny
But we really would appreciate
A gift of money
If asking for money doesn’t feel right, there are other alternatives to gift lists to consider.
Store gift vouchers – guests may not think these are very original but vouchers are very practical. Department stores and most high street chains all offer gift vouchers and, as they sell such a broad range of products, it’s almost like having cash. You can use the money for a larger item such as a sofa, put it towards a new kitchen or buy clothes if the mood takes you.
Good causes – giving to a charity is a way to make your wedding extra special. If you’ve lost a loved one to a disease, you could ask for donations to a charity that helps sufferers, be it through online donations or even collection boxes at your wedding.