Women newly engaged

What to write in an engagement card

A card is the most considerate way to congratulate your friends who are about to tie the knot. If you have writers' block, here are some choice phrases to put inside.

So your nearest and dearest friends have got engaged. Whether you were there when the proposal happened, or they called you immediately afterwards – or even if you found out on social media, it’s always an exciting time when a friend is about to embark on an exciting new adventure. (And when there’s a wedding in the calendar to look forward to!)


If you want to include a more heartfelt message than a simple ‘congratulations’ then we’ve got a few suggestions to help spark your creativity.

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First off – say congratulations!

Kick things off on a cheery note – a simple “congratulations on your engagement” says it all. Then you can follow it up with a more personal and heartfelt message that can draw all the great times you’ve had together, whether it’s with just the bride or groom or both.

You don’t have to be too serious

You can add some humour in there or gentle sarcasm, as long as it’s genuine and reflects what they mean to you. Funny anecdotes are another good shout. (But maybe steer clear of ‘inside jokes’ if only one of them will understand them!)

Wish them well for the future

A nice way to wrap things up is with a genuine message wishing them well – whether it’s for a beautiful wedding that goes by without a hitch, or that they have a very long and happy life together. This can be followed up with a sentence about looking forward to celebrating together (if you definitely know you’re invited to the wedding that is!) or saying that you hope you can buy them a drink in the coming weeks.

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Engagement card message examples

As above, a well-written engagement card should be a mixture of upbeat congratulations, some reminiscing on your relationship with the couple as well as some positive well wishes for the future.

Dear Xxx and Xxx,

Congratulations on your engagement!

I’m so happy for you both having known you guys for so many years. Remember when [insert funny anecdote]?

Wishing you both many years of happiness and a beautiful wedding.

All my love,

Or you could keep it brief with one of the following:

Congratulations on your new life together
Congratulations – you’re getting hitched!
Best wishes to you on your engagement!
Wishing you both lifelong happiness.
Can’t wait for your wedding! [NB: Make sure you’re definitely invited first!]

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Best engagement quotes

If you want to make your card extra special, writing a little quote on the left-hand side of the card adds a lovely touch. Here are a few of our favourites:

“If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love.” – Michel de Montaigne

“Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love.” – Albert Einstein

“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller

“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.” – Oscar Wilde

“Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” – Emily Brontë

“I love her, and that’s the beginning and end of everything.” F. Scott Fitzgerald

“Twice in her life she had mistaken something else for it; it was like seeing somebody in the street who you think is a friend, you whistle and wave and run after him, and it is not only not the friend, but not even very like him. A few minutes later the real friend appears in view, and then you can’t imagine how you ever mistook that other person for him.” – Nancy Mitford


Thinking of getting engaged yourself? Well 2020 is a leap year, so even more reason to take the plunge. Read about the best ways to propose here.