It’s wedding season again, which means it’s time to choose a winning wedding outfit and gear up for more food and fun on the dance floor with your family and friends. But before you get that far, you need to consider wedding presents.
Wedding gifting can be a tricky business, with guests often wondering how much to give and how much they’re expected to cough up. If you’re lucky enough to be attending a wedding with a traditional or honeymoon gift list, then the pressure is off to a certain degree, but what if you’re off to a wedding with no gift list?
Well, it entirely depends on a number of factors. You’ll need to consider your personal budget, how close you are to the couple and how much you’ve already had to splash out for the day so far. If you’ve travelled abroad for example, you may spend a little less than if you’d popped down the road to your local church.
Whether they’re a family member, you’re in the bridal party and whether or not you’re attending the day and evening do all impact the amount you give too.
If you’re one of the lucky ones with a wedding gift list to play with, then you should find a wide variety of gifts and be able to locate one that works with your budget.
If you’re gift list-free and starting to feel even more confused than you were to start with, then don’t fear! We have written some key guidelines to help you decide on just how much to gift the happy couple. We’ve covered every eventuality, so no matter what the situation, you’ll feel confident in your wedding gifting choices.
According to a survey by Moneywise, 27% of their readers said they’d give a gift worth between £26 and £50 and 16% would pay between £76 and £100. Many people try to match the cost of their meal and drinks provided by the bride and groom, but this isn’t a hard and fast rule. We recommend that you find an amount you’re most comfortable with within around £25-£100 depending on how close you are to the couple. If you’re at the tighter end of the budget, don’t underestimate how appreciated a meaningful message in a card will be.
Evening only guests
11% of Moneywise readers said they would spend up to £25 and 9% claimed they would fork out £26 to £50, together making up the majority of responses. We think £25-£50 is a reasonable amount for an evening guest to spend, but many couples won’t be expecting anything at all from evening only guests so only give what you can.
Destination wedding guests
64% of the participants in a Wedbay poll agreed that no matter the distance travelled, a gift should still be provided. While your travel and accommodation costs shouldn’t substitute a gift, it’s perfectly reasonable to reduce your gifting budget. Couples will appreciate the cost of a destination wedding for the attendees and so a small token to send them off into married life will do just fine.
If there was ever a time to splash out on an extra-special wedding gift then the wedding of a sibling or parent is it. You’ll likely know about the intended nuptials from the day of the engagement so you’ll have plenty of time to save up and seek out the perfect present.
Bridal party members
Likewise, if you’re a member of the bridal party then you’re most likely very close to the bride or groom and so a more extravagant gift is appropriate, especially if you’ve been given a dress or suit or had hair and makeup paid for. If budget is an issue, ask if the other bridal party members would like to team up and buy something with you.
If you’ve got a strict budget to stick to then we’d recommend sticking with the day guest guidelines above, but otherwise close friends often check off the larger items on a wedding gift list or choose something extra special to gift the couple by themselves.
Colleagues and extended family
Your wedding gift will act as a thank you to the couple for having you for the day or evening and as a token to wish them well for the future. A gift of between £25 and £50 is appropriate for more distant relationships.