Whether you want to keep costs down, you aren’t sure how to entertain children at your wedding, or your venue doesn’t allow under-eighteens, not having children at a wedding is increasingly common. However, this can be a very emotional issue, so letting guests know that their children aren’t invited can be awkward.
While you may have always dreamt of a child-free day or were hoping to give parents an excuse to have a night off, parents can sometimes be sensitive when it comes to whether or not their little ones are included. In our experience, giving plenty of notice so that parents can get a babysitter is key, if they know within plenty of time that it’s a child-free wedding they’ll be able to make alternative arrangements easily.
We also think honesty is the best policy, simply be upfront about your reasoning, perhaps you’re worried that children will make too much noise during your ceremony and you’d prefer a quieter atmosphere, or maybe you’re planning a hedonistic celebration that simply wouldn’t be appropriate for small ones. Most people will happily accept your policy and appreciate that it is your day and so your wishes come first.
If you really can’t face having the chat, there is always the option to only address the invitation to the parents, and not name the children, but you run the risk that they will assume their little ones are also invited. So, if you want our advice, we’d make it clear from the off.
To keep your planning stress-free, we’ve written down a number of ways to let guests know that your wedding will be child-free, will only allow children to attend parts of the day or will only have close family member’s children in attendance Whatever your situation, we’ve got a politely worded message for you!
Your venue doesn’t allow children
We are very sorry, but due to restrictions at our venue, we cannot accommodate children.
Due to safety reasons/limited space, we are unable to extend this invitation to children.
You are keeping costs down
As much as we would like to invite all the children of our friends, it is only possible to accommodate the children of close family.
We regret that due to cost restrictions, we can only accommodate close family children.
You are allowing close family children
Unfortunately, as much as we’d love to invite all of our friends’ children, we can only accommodate a few close family children. We hope that you will understand this decision and we very much hope you will still be able to join us on our special day.
In order to keep numbers to a minimum, we can only invite a small number of children. We also thought you might like a day off!
We are sorry we are unable to accommodate children.
Regrettably, children are unable to attend.
With respect, we would like our special day to be an adult only occasion
In order to allow all guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult-only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!
We would love to give all our guests the opportunity to let their hair down and have a good time without having to worry about little eyes and ears so we politely request no children.
Although we do love all of your little cherubs we would request that our wedding remain adults only. So book a sitter and dust off those dancing shoes!
Children allowed for ceremony but not reception
Children are welcome at the ceremony, however the reception is an adults-only affair.
Children allowed for reception but not ceremony
Children outside the bridal party are unfortunately not invited for the ceremony, but are welcome for the reception.
We would like our special day to be an adult only occasion, however we would like to open the invite up to your children at the evening reception.