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The 5 most stressful things about wedding planning – and how to deal with them

From guest list anxiety to DIY drama, we explain how to cope with wedding stress

Doing DIY 

We see an increasing number of couples putting their own stamp on their weddings by choosing to make one or more décor elements themselves. At the start, this may seem like a fun bonding activity. When it’s 2am and you’re moodily folding your 562nd origami crane after a long day at work, you may see it differently.


Reduce the stress
Start as early as possible, particularly if your chosen project involves creating something for each guest. And remember, there are ways you can personalise your day that don’t involve glue guns or visits to craft emporiums.

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Sending invitations

For many couples, the official invitations going out marks the moment it all becomes real, so of course, there’s something exciting about this task – at first. When you’ve waited patiently for RSVPs and eventually had to chase all the non-repliers, you may find your enthusiasm starts to wane.

Reduce the stress
The traditional advice is to post your invites six to eight weeks in advance. If you send them even earlier, you’ll get plenty of time to chase outstanding replies and find replacements if some guests can’t make it. If you’re including RSVP cards, make sure you put the relevant guest’s name on each one to avoid any confusion.

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Making choices

What could possibly be unpleasant about choosing things for your wedding? The issue is that you’re choosing between things, and unless you have an incredibly strong vision for your day, that’s not so easy. There are so many options that it’s easy to get decision fatigue and start second-guessing your choices.

Reduce the stress
Avoid the mindset that there’s only one perfect dress/cake/venue for you, and if you don’t find it, your wedding won’t be as good. This simply isn’t true. Once you’ve made a decision, stop looking at other options. And don’t be overly influenced by other people – you and your partner are best-placed to say what really represents your relationship.

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Creating the table plan

Unless you’re having a particularly intimate reception, if you don’t set out in advance where guests will be sitting for the wedding breakfast, there’s the potential for polite chaos. However, actually compiling a table plan can be surprisingly difficult.

Balancing friends, family sensitivities, and guests who won’t know many other people – all of these factors can add up to a maths problem without a solution. And that’s before you get a couple of guests saying that they can’t attend after all, sending you back to the beginning.

Reduce the stress
Our sister site has an excellent drag-and-drop table plan tool – go to hitched.co.uk/planner/tableplanner to start putting your seating arrangements together. Worried about late-in-the-day drop-outs? Consider escort cards, as these are much easier to change than a chart.

Compiling the guest list 

Putting together a list of the people you want at your wedding seems like a pleasant task at first. But when you compare this list to the number of guests you can afford, you may need to make some cuts.

Reduce the stress
Work out some rules and stick to them. Perhaps remove any non-relatives you haven’t spoken to for two years, or only offer plus-ones if you have met both of the couple. Ask yourselves whether you’d want to be a guest at their wedding – if not, why have them at yours?


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