10 bridesmaid sins to avoid

How not to ruin a friendship when you're picked as someone's bridesmaid

It’s shocking how many posts on our forum are made up of bridesmaid horror stories. Sometimes just a touch of thoughtlessness can snowball into an irreparable rift between best friends. So, after giving our advice on how to keep your bridesmaids happy, we thought we’d turn the tables and tell you, maids, how to keep the bride a picture of Zen.


1. Don’t complain about the dress

If you get to pick out your own dress, great, but don’t be annoyed if the bride wants to choose them herself to keep some consistency within the wedding party line-up. This day is about her and not you, so accept her decision as rule.

2. Don’t drink too much

No one wants to be the plastered girl at the party who ruins everyone else’s good time. But what’s worse than being that girl? Being the one who has to look after her, especially if it’s your party and you’re too busy playing Mum to enjoy it.

3. Don’t skip the pre-wedding events

Unless you’ve got a great excuse, it’s rude. The bride has chosen you for one of the biggest roles at her wedding, which shows how much she values your friendship. Unless you live on the other side of the planet or are vomiting out of your ears, you’re going to that rehearsal dinner and you’re going to have an amazing time! (Or at least pretend to).

4. Don’t moan about the costs

Do you know who is paying even more than you? The bride.

5. Don’t ask for a dress size too small and then promise to lose weight

You know what’s easier than doing that? Buying the right size dress and maintaining your weight.

6. Don’t play the martyr

If you’re going to be secretly scorning your friend, it’s probably better that you don’t offer to help her in the first place.

7. Don’t weigh in on wedding decisions

As a bridesmaid it’s your job to assist the bride. If your opinion doesn’t match hers on something, keep it to yourself unless she outright asks you what you think.

8. Don’t plan the hen party of your dreams

This isn’t about your dreams, we must stress. This is about her dreams. Your time will come.

9. Don’t order your dress at the last minute

There are so many things that could go wrong with this and the stress levels that you’ll cause the bride are totally not worth it.

10. Don’t think short term


This wedding might take up a year of your life. However, the way you act throughout the process could impact a lifelong friendship and that is what you need to keep in mind.