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What wedding ceremony styles are there?

Whether it's civil, religious or humanist, £421 is the average cost a bride will spend on registrar or church fees. What kind of ceremony will you choose?

The actual ceremony – the most crucial part of the day – is surprisingly easy to overlook in the whirl of flowers, outfits and cake. Make it just as memorable as your reception by taking time to really think about how you want to get legally wed.

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ceremonies

Civil

This is a non-religious legal ceremony that takes place in a register office or local authority-approved venue, which can be anything from a barn or hotel to a zoo or aquarium. An outdoor ‘I do’ is possible in England and Wales, as long as you exchange vows under a permanent structure, such as a pergola. In addition to the required legal wording, you can usually add your own personalised vows and readings, provided they have no religious connection. Contact the closest register office to your venue to make sure there’s a registrar available for your date.

Religious

With a Church of England, Church in Wales, Roman Catholic, Jewish or Quaker ceremony, your celebrant will normally be able to register the marriage – that is, make it legal. For all other religious ceremonies, ask your celebrant, as you may have to arrange a civil ceremony as well in order to be legally wed. In any case, always check whether your place of worship has any specific rules: with a Church of England ceremony, for example, you must announce your intention to marry through the reading of banns in the three months leading up to the big day.

Humanist

There’s no set format for this non-religious ceremony – you and your celebrant decide on the wording, readings, location and structure. Some couples incorporate symbolic elements, such as handfasting (tying cord or ribbon around your joined hands) and sand pouring (mixing colourful sands). As humanist weddings aren’t legally binding in England and Wales, you’ll need a civil ceremony, too.

The Scottish exception

Ceremonies for most religions and belief systems (including humanism) have legal status in Scotland. What’s more, if your celebrant’s happy with it, you can get married anywhere, from the banks of a loch or a beach to the top of a mountain.

Giving notice

Unless you’re having a Church of England ceremony, this is an essential legal step. Remember: contact the register office closest to where you live to make an appointment to give notice; get in touch with the register office nearest your venue (if in a different area) to arrange the actual civil ceremony. Currently, you have to give notice a minimum of 16 days before the ceremony (you need 15 full days for your notice to be displayed at the register office). However, recent changes to the law mean that this will increase to 28 days from March 2015. You then pick up your authority documents. These are valid for one year, unless you change venue, which means starting the process again.

Date and time

You can legally wed any day of the week and at any hour, including at night, although bear in mind that your celebrant may not be as excited as you at the prospect of an 11pm Christmas Eve ceremony. You may also have to think about opening restrictions at your venue.

You don’t have to…

Exchange rings
This is a tradition, not a legal requirement. Just make sure you warn your celebrant in advance, to avoid any awkward pauses.

Wear white
We’re pretty sure a marriage is still legally binding if the bride’s in sparkly gold sequins.

Be ‘given away’
There’s no legal reason why you can’t walk down the aisle alone or with your intended.

Have guests
You just need two witnesses present (but remember, the celebrant doesn’t count!).

Marry abroad

Legalities for destination weddings vary enormously from country to country. For instance, in France you need 40 days’ residency before the ceremony, while in Las Vegas you can pretty much just walk in off the street. Make sure you do plenty of research, or consider hiring a specialist planner for insider advice. You’ll be asked to produce certain documents, such as birth certificate, decree absolute (if you’ve been married before) or Certificate of Non Impediment (easily arranged through your local UK registrar). Set on sunnier climes but want to cut down the paperwork? Have your legal ceremony in the UK before jumping on a plane for a blessing.

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