Same-sex weddings: How to behave as a guest

A wedding is a wedding, no matter which two people are standing at the altar

With gay marriage being legalised across the globe, the same-sex wedding is firmly on the radar. And we’re delighted to see several happy LGBTQ couples tying the knot.


For anyone attending their first same-sex wedding this year, we’re sure you have some questions when it comes to wedding etiquette. Stick with us and we’ll help you make sure you have a fabulous time celebrating the happy couple, and that they feel supported and well-loved.


Use correct terminology

A big question when it comes to same-sex weddings is “Who’s the bride? Who’s the groom?” Well, the most simple answer is that there will be two brides or two grooms. If you want to make sure that you don’t make an embarrassing error, just refer to the couple by their names.

Just because it’s an untraditional marriage doesn’t mean it has to be an untraditional ceremony

It’s unlikely that there’ll be a drag show and RuPaul will probably not show up unless he’s a family friend. And don’t act shocked that the couple are to be married in a church.

What about the hen party?

If it’s two women and they both have the same friends, does it still make sense to have two separate parties? Well, no, probably not. In this case, it could just be one big hen party explosion! And let us ask you one question… doesn’t that sound at least twice as fun?


Do not use your wedding invite to express your reservations

If you have negative opinions about gay marriage, don’t go. Trust us, the wedding party does not need you to rain your negativity down on their ceremony.

It is still a wedding


It doesn’t matter if there are two women, two men or a dog and a cactus (okay, the last pairing is a little bit questionable). This is a wedding. And, essentially, the same rules apply. Don’t wear white. Do cry when the happy couple say their vows and try not to get too tipsy on champagne at the reception. All in all, smile, dance and have an amazing time celebrating the brides, the grooms or whoever else might be up there tying the knot.